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SUSAN E. FOSTER × CHARMING IMPOSSIBLES

For the many women (and men) stuck at home with abusers, children to care for, and the current stress of survival overall, domestic violence survivor, Susan E Foster, author of the new book Charming Impossibles: How Ordinary Angels Help Free the Hopelessly Stuck (Clovercroft Publishing) provides tips, advice, strategies, and resources to help them escape the invisible strings of abusers.

Foster calls them “‘Charming Impossibles’ – ‘charm’ is their deceptive invisible mask and convincing lure. ‘Impossible to satisfy’ is their secret weapon.”

But, how do you escape the abusers in your life? Why is leaving them behind while moving forward so difficult?

In this very revealing book, Foster shares her personal journey of surviving years of emotional abuse and isolation in plain sight…and the lessons learned. She also shares powerful and moving stories of others, unraveling the mysterious web of confusion surrounding abuse and overcoming difficult relationships.

In her article “Why Do We Self-Sabotage? You may be self-sabotaging without even realizing it,,” Dr. Ellen Hendriksen, a psychologist, states: “Self-sabotage can interfere with the best-laid plans and goals. Why do we do it? Turns out, there are many reasons why instead of shooting for the moon, we end up aiming right for our foot. Self-sabotage is any action that gets in the way of your intent…'”

She further adds, “There are countless ways we sabotage ourselves. So why do we do it? It comes down to four big reasons: Self-Worth, Control, Perceived Fraudulence, and Familiarity of that which we know is preferable to the unknown. To summarize: it all comes down to three words: fear of failure.”

Charming Impossibles is a story that describes a path to freedom for the apparently “hopelessly stuck.” The result is a credible, engaging, informative, supportive, and hopeful story.

To learn more, visit: susanefoster.com 
Books are available online

About the Author 

Susan E Foster is a mother, author, speaker, coach and advocate hoping to equip women and men to recognize the abusive Charming Impossibles in their lives. She hopes you will discover the Ordinary Angels in your life just as she has in hers. She resides in Fort Worth, Texas.

LECRAE, 360 MAGAZINE

LECRAE – Set Me Free

Grammy-Award winning artist, best-selling author, entrepreneur and social activist LECRAE released his new single “Set Me Free” today via Columbia Records/Reach Records. “Set Me Free” featuring Def Jam recording artist, singer, and rapper, YK Osiris (“Worth It,” “Valentine”), produced by GAWVI is the first song to drop from Lecrae’s upcoming album to be released later this year.  
 
“As I went through my own restoration process, I realized there were things that had held me down, keeping me from being all that God had created me to me. My prayer is that we’re all set from shackles like negative thoughts that keep us from experiencing true freedom!”
 
Along with the song, Lecrae also released the official video featuring YK directed by Bobby Hanaford. Click here to watch the video.
 
“Set Me Free” is available everywhere now. Click here to stream/purchase.

Read Lecrae’s open letter amid the coronavirus outbreak on Billboard here.

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It Began Before I knew It

By Gary Dickson

There is little doubt that travel whether for business or pleasure stimulates the mind, challenges preconceptions, and promotes a flexible attitude. And I’m no different from anyone else and lucky enough to have had a business before I retired that provided a heady amount of high-end luxury travel as well as an association with people of impeccable taste and sophistication. These experiences are ingrained in my memory as beautiful dreams but there were a few nightmares along the way.

It all began a long time before I was in the business world of fashion, hospitality, perfumes, and jewelry. While that platform allowed me to combine business and pleasure trips to the design centers of New York, Los Angeles, San Francisco, Paris, and Milan, those adventures only continued a predilection that I had developed when I was a graduate student in Switzerland. I used my time off to travel to cities in Europe and beyond like Amsterdam, London, Budapest, Berlin, Athens, even Casablanca, and Marrakesh, and my favorite, Paris many times. But it all began long ago with my mother and father.

My mother was a stickler on many subjects, but particularly about books and thank-you notes. In fact, she was my first editor. Whenever an occasion required that I reciprocate some favor or event, she would not only remind and then remind me again of the necessity of sending a hand-written and timely thank you note but would also review a draft of my authorship to see that it captured the essence and etiquette of the moment. In effect, this meant that the thank you note had to re-tell the story of the event and its importance, but also how I particularly enjoyed the experience, as well as the obligatory praise for the hostess. Let’s just say politely in her memory that my first draft never passed muster.

And then there were the books; first, the ones that she read to me as a child in the afternoons curled up in her reassuring lap, and later, the ones of the summer reading schedule prescribed by my school that she insisted were subject to the equal time provision with the sports that I so dearly preferred.

Then there was my father, the consummate printer, the compositor/typesetter. In printing you learn a lot about precision–words, spelling, type fonts, wrong fonts, kerning, spacing, alignment, plus you’re exposed to every business and profession, and how they want the public to perceive and value them. 

My father loved hand-made wool three-piece suits. He loved Cadillacs. He loved music and Broadway; so each year this Georgia couple, my parents, went to New York to see the latest shows and eat at Sardi’s, and they took me along from eight years old on to see Guys and Dolls, The King and I, South Pacific, Fanny, and a host of others.

And when I graduated from university and was accepted to a graduate program by a university in Switzerland, they reluctantly agreed although my father thought it too extravagant and my mother thought it too far.

Then in Switzerland, I met my first wife, an artist. As a matter of fact, her extended family were all artists to one degree or another: Dante professors, art restorers, etc. Their devotion and patronage of the artiigiani in Florence rubbed off on me. We made jaunts all over Tuscany searching for the special and unique. 

Then later, when I became active in my father’s business, I helped change its course to reflect those qualities inherent in artistic workmanship. This tack in heading endeared our company to graphic designers across the country, indeed the world.

When I retired, I found that I had all these vignettes of people, places, and stories that were always popping up. Catalytic to these memories is my wife Susie who loves travel and new experiences as much as I do. Through her complicity, my personal souvenirs are re-lived.  Sometimes a ragout is better the next day.

And after all, isn’t every story even if it is about an afternoon in a small town, a travel story? Life is a journey, and it is up to us to enjoy every bump along the way. But to do this, you must possess a level of consciousness, pay attention, and enjoy the trip. I remember people used to ask me if I had had a good trip. And my response was always that I don’t do bad trips. 

Several years ago, when I was taking advanced French literature courses at the Alliance Française, LA, my French professor asked me if I had ever written anything. I answered, No.

But in reality, I have been writing all my life, if not on paper, then in my head. I took her advice and attended writing classes at UCLA where after five months I had my first novel. 

Many people have asked if my stories are autobiographical or even if certain parts are true. I always respond that in every story a little truth resides, but more importantly it is the synthesis of experience and observation that provide the fodder for narrative. Said best by Sir Alfred Lord Tennyson:“I am a part of all that I’ve met.” 

Gary Dickson is an inveterate traveler and a Francophile, sans merci. Educated in the United States and Switzerland in history, literature, and the classics, Gary is the author of The Poetry of Good Eats, An Improbable Pairing, and A Spy With Scruples.

Connect with Dickson at GaryDickson.us, Facebook.com/GaryDicksonAuthor/, and Instagram.com/GaryDicksonAuthor.

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Mental Illness Battle

In The Apple and the Shady Tree, a memoir by Lisa Novick Goldberg, she explores her family’s generational battle with mental illness, which was worsened by her father’s role as the money man for the Genovese crime family. Here’s what Goldberg learned from her traumatic childhood in the shadow of the Mafia.

I have suffered from crippling anxiety and bouts of depression since childhood. The genetic component of these diseases was exacerbated by a series of unhealthy familial behaviors known as codependency. Years in therapy gave definition to the behaviors between my parents and me that had served up a bitter cocktail of fear, shame, guilt, anger and helplessness.

Based on my experiences, there are red flags indicative of any relationship mired in codependency, including:

  • A preoccupation and dedication to another person’s wants and needs at the expense of your own.
  • An inability to establish appropriate boundaries in the roles that each supports in the relationship.
  • An enablement of unhealthy behaviors in all parties involved. 
  • An unwillingness or impotence to stop the actions that limit and destroy each of the participants’ chances for a healthier life.

Codependency has nothing to do with love, though it often hides behind a mask of concern, selflessness, loyalty, obligation or commitment. These excuses have little to do with the interactions that characterize a co-dependent relationship. The “co” part of this destructive connection means that both sides are responsible for maintaining a strangling hold. Both sides get some sort of payoff for their exhaustive efforts, so breaking free from the “dance of codependency can be challenging.

My relationship with my parents was a study in codependency. My mother struggled with  severe depression and anxiety that was mostly left untreated. My father, though he lived at home with us, was largely absent from the family’s daily activities and he compensated for this by playing the “good parent” to my mother’s “bad parent.” My sister and I suffered greatly as pawns in their battles.

Early in my childhood, my parents’ often reckless behavior forced me to assume the position of adult in the family. My mother’s drastic and unexpected mood swings resulted in her spending an unhealthy amount of her life in the perceived protection of her bed, in her darkened bedroom, with the drone of the television as her only companion. She tried her best to be the idealized 1960s suburban mom, but she clearly struggled with the role. I became obsessed, in varying degrees throughout my life, with the impossible task of wanting to make my mother whole and to alleviate her suffering. Until just years ago, prior to therapy, we might talk on the phone as much as 10 times a day, with frequent disturbing conversations that rendered me too anxious to function. Our seemingly tight, supportive mother-daughter relationship was anything but: We enabled each other; I was clinging to the illusion of motherly love and she was struggling to maintain control of me. Both of us were operating under the cover of familial love.

My co-dependent relationship with my father was less obvious, but equally stifling. As I describe in my book, his role as the money man for the Genovese crime family involved long hours away from our home; a requirement that didn’t seem to bother him. As a child I could never get enough time with him, an issue of which I made him well-aware, but to no avail. 

During adolescence, I became obsessed with the fear of losing my parents to an untimely death. As my father’s job was mostly street-centered, I could not picture him in an office and my mind filled the void with visions of him out in the evil streets of New York City. There was nothing about my father that even hinted at vulnerability, but to me, he was out in the big, bad world with no one to protect him. I begged him to help ease my anxiety by phoning me everyday at the same time so that I would know he was alive and well. He insisted that this was neither possible nor reasonable (it was the pre-cellphone era, though I’m not sure that it would have mattered). 

In adulthood, my interactions with my father took on a more complex codependency. To compensate for his parental inadequacies, he tried to buy my love with cars, apartments, an expensive education, trips—material hole-fillers. If I couldn’t get his attention, I could at least get something.

I was smart enough to parlay my advantages into a better life for myself. My dad had strong opinions on how I should live my life and my fears and insecurities were a weak match against his strong personality. I willingly fed right into his need to control. It was far easier to have my father make important life decisions for me rather than to accept the responsibility of taking my own risks. You didn’t have to be a therapist to see the “co” in this codependent relationship.

We were “dancing” fast and furiously until, in my late 20s, I wound up in front of a grand jury investigation of the Mafia’s involvement in lucrative city development projects. Nothing was ever the same after that. My anxiety and depression escalated and our intermesh became even more intensified. I was desperate to break the cycle but didn’t know how. In the past, therapy and medicine had been administered on a crisis management basis, but not as a long-term solution. 

Unfortunately, it took the death of my father to help release me from the suffocating relationships with both my parents. I was determined to seek the help that I needed to change. In my 50s, unable to thrive with the behaviors that had fueled my codependency, I began psychoanalysis. I am 61 years old and continue the hard work of exploring the roots of toxic relationships and how to spot and run from their trappings. The lessons learned have gone a long way to foster and enrich my interactions with my elderly mother, my husband, my daughter and even my friends. 

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IS THIS SEAT TAKEN? (3 Book Gift Set) – In her highly acclaimed book series, author Kristin S. Kaufman, explores life through the “seats” we sit in throughout the journey. Drawing from real-life moments, she shares hidden blessings of every day encounters that inspire and teach us all how to recognize the wisdom gained and the lessons learned, if we know how to look. 

To order the “3 Book Gift Set” go to: http://www.kristinkaufman.com/is-this-seat-taken-book-series/
To learn more, visit: www.kristinkaufman.com
Books are available on Amazon.com and bookstores

About the Author

Kristin S. Kaufman is a prolific writer. Her first book, Is This Seat Taken? Random Encounters That Change Your Life, was released in 2011 to national acclaim, and was followed by a sequel, Is This Seat Taken? It’s Never Too Late to Find the Right Seat released in 2015. 

A successful portfolio entrepreneur, she  founded Alignment, Inc., in 2007 to serve individuals and corporations as they seek alignment within themselves and their organizations. Alignment, Inc., is a unique services company through which Kaufman has brought her expertise to tens of thousands of people, working with organizations to create sustainable success individually and collectively.  Through her partnership with Rodan & Fields, she extends her reach by providing coaching and assistance to entrepreneurs and independent business owners as they build their own financial independence.

She is an active civic and community volunteer, and currently serves in numerous non-profit board positions. Kaufman lives in Dallas, Texas, with her beloved rescued white Schnauzer, Lulu.

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Journalism: Why It Matters

Despite the criticisms that have been leveled at news organizations in recent years and the many difficulties they face, journalism matters. It matters, argues Schudson, because it orients people daily in the complex and changing worlds in which they live. It matters because it offers a fact-centered, documented approach to pertinent public issues. It matters because it keeps watch on the powerful, especially those in government, and can press upon them unpleasant truths to which they must respond. Corruption is stemmed, unwise initiatives stopped, public danger averted because of what journalists do.

Professional journalism dedicated to fact-centered stories about the events, people, moments and moods of life today matters. When this journalism is competent, compelling, and assertive, it makes a world of difference.

This book challenges journalists to think hard about what they really do. It challenges skeptical or distrustful news audiences who take pride in detecting media bias but fail to see that their own bias may distort their perception. And it holds out hope that journalism will be for years to come a path for ambitious, curious, young people who love words or pictures or numbers and want to use them to improve the public conversation in familiar ways or in ways yet to be imagined.


The Author: 

Michael Schudson is Professor of Journalism at Columbia University.

Colin Bedell, Queer Cosmos, LGBTQ+ ,astrology, 360 MAGAZINE

Queer Cosmos

Can you believe that to date not one astrology book has been published that is not only inclusive, but also uses psychological approaches to encourage genuine healing and personal and relational growth?


That’s where Queer Cosmos: The Astrology of Queer Identities and Relationships (November 12, 2019) by Colin Bedell comes into play! (But what’s best about the book? While it includes a chapters on Queer Theory, an astrology primer, and real-life testimonies from LGBT folks whose lives have been improved by astrology, the book is really appealing to ANY reader. It’s core focus is to promote love, healing, and feelings of self-worth.)

ABOUT THE BOOK

Queer Cosmos is a contemporary, fresh look into astrology, personal insight, and relationships for the LGBTQ+ community! Astrologer Colin Bedell from Cosmopolitan and QueerCosmos.com has brought together fifteen years of research, client interviews, and astrological mastery to create a spiritual guide for not only resistance and resilience, but also personal insights and relationship compatibility.

Unpacking complex issues like shame and worthiness, Queer Cosmos explores Astrology as an antidote to feelings of hopelessness and provides language for authentic practices of self-expression. Leaving behind gender-normative pronouns and assumptions, Queer Cosmos explores more nuanced patterns of the archetypal energies expressed in queer experiences.

After all, the only way to forge deep, meaningful relationships is to first forge a relationship with yourself. Drawing on research from experts in the field like Dr. Harville Hendrix, Brene Brown, and Esther Perel, Bedell goes deep to provide practical relational theory that can empower readers to find successful and healthy relationships.

ABOUT COLIN BEDELL

Colin Bedell is a gay Gemini Twin from Long Island, NY. His website, QueerCosmos.com, was founded to explore queer identities and issues through the lens of universal spiritual themes and astrology. He graduated from the New School with a Bachelor’s Degree in Literature and a Master’s in Fashion Studies from Parsons School of Design. Colin is the weekly horoscope writer for Cosmopolitan.com, a monthly contributor for Astrology.com, and the author of A Little Bit of Astrology. He’s currently serving as the Vice-President of the Long Island Chapter of the astrological not for profit organization National Council for Geocosmic Research.

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Whoopi = American Dream Dream

Whoopi Goldberg made a personal appearance at American Dream yesterday in East Rutherford, New Jersey to open Whoopi = American Dream, American Dream’s inaugural “Dream Drop.” Ready-to-wear pieces from her DUBGEE collection, a mix of new and vintage holiday sweaters and recently launched book, “The Unqualified Hostess” are now available for purchase in the shop, which is open through January 2020. Whoopi = American Dream is Whoopi Goldberg’s first stand-alone retail experience.  

To celebrate the opening, Whoopi Goldberg hosted a public appearance inside the shop from 1PM – 3PM, meeting with guests and signing purchased merchandise. Whoopi’s granddaughter, Amarah Skye, was also on-site hand painting purchased DUBGEE fashions. American Dream future tenant, Sephora, hosted three Mini Lip Service stations outside the space to offer guests festive touch ups.

The shop’s interior is inspired by Whoopi’s home, with saturated walls and Art Deco furniture, creating a residential setting – décor pieces were sourced and curated from her personal collection. A DUBGEE fashion salon lives in the center of the space, allowing guests to browse and try on pieces from the collection, as well as a hand selected assortment of her holiday sweaters. A holiday dining table is featured towards the back of the shop, inspired by “The Unqualified Hostess.”

Guests will have the opportunity to experience the Whoopi = American Dream Dream Drop from November 11, 2019 – January 2020. 

Hours of operation will be 11AM – 7PM, Monday – Saturday.

*Photo credit: BFA for American Dream

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Neo Classics®

Neo Classics® are rare manufactured vehicles, one-of-a-kind high-end cars, special short-run cars, and “young classics.” They are vehicles that become legends—and coveted collectors’ items—the moment they leave the factory.

Faster, more powerful, more exclusive: whether they’re called supercars or hypercars, these are turbo-charged fantasies in chrome. For most of us, however, they will remain dreams on wheels. In this book, René Staud brings the dream a little closer. Page after gleaming page, the “Master of Light” brings these shining stars to our coffee table—from the Bugatti Chiron to the Lamborghini Huracán Spyder to the Mercedes AMG One. The images are accompanied by expert texts from the seasoned automotive writer and aficionado, Jürgen Lewandowski.

René Staud is considered one of the most sought-after automotive photographers and one of the most innovative in the industry. With the Magicflash® lighting system, he has given not only his art, but studio photography in general an important impulse. He has published six volumes with teNeues. With more than 70,000 copies sold, they are in turn classics of automotive literature.

With texts by Jürgen Lewandowski, the automotive section editor of the Süddeutsche Zeitung for over 20 years, and the author of roughly 100 books about cars. Among his books published by teNeues are the best-selling titles The Porsche 911 Book and The Ferrari Book – Passion for Design.

• Special cars in a special book

• The term Neo Classics® is a registered trademark and, at the same time, the focus of this book: it’s about vehicles that stand out for their price, their exclusivity, or their performance

• A wonderful gift for all lovers of exceptional cars

Photo © 2019 Staud Studios GmbH, Leonberg, Germany. www.staudstudios.com. All rights reserved

© Neo Classics® by René Staud & Jürgen Lewandowski, published by teNeues, $125, www.teneues.com

THE 100: BURGUNDY
EXCEPTIONAL WINES TO BUILD A DREAM CELLAR


By Jeannie Cho Lee MW, foreword by Lalou Bize‑Leroy $75

Illuminating the greatest Burgundy vintages, The 100: Burgundy invites readers to explore the region’s seductive wines to create a dream cellar, from benchmark domaines to rising stars. Master of Wine Jeannie Cho Lee has selected her 100 most memorable Burgundy wines over twenty-five years of experience, detailing the domaines and highlighting the vintages with tasting notes. With a foreword by Lalou Bize-Leroy, the renowned owner of Domaine Leroy and co-owner of Domaine de la Romanée-Conti, this is a journey through the countryside of Burgundy, capturing the context, people, and history that inspire the creation of these masterful wines.