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What Do I Need to Bring to a Divorce Attorney Consultation?

Divorce is a rocky road, but it’s better to take the bumpy off-ramp to safety than keeping pedal to the metal on a burning highway of a marriage. If you’ve decided to lawyer up for your divorce, you need to be prepared to maximize your time with the attorney by getting your documents in order, asking the right questions, and getting sound legal advice about what you can expect from your case.

Goals for your divorce

Have somewhat of a game plan going into the consultation process. If it helps to write it down so you can get your thoughts in order. Think it over and draft out some ideas in your mind of what you think the best outcome would be. What do you want at the end of this?

Some goals to think about may be maintaining certain assets. Write down what financial outcome you have in mind. Think about shared items and what you want. Who gets the car? What about the dog? 

If you have kids, they are probably at the forefront of your mind right now. Think about how you envision a custody arrangement working out, and then decide what would be best for the children and also as good as possible for you. 

Your lawyer is your confidant, and they will stick with you through the divorce (provided you continue to pay them!). But even though your attorney will advise you, head into the consultation with the mindset and attitude you want to be seen with if your divorce goes to court. With a good mindset and clear head, approach this meeting as a moment to clearly state what you want and how they can help you make it work. 

Questions you should ask

Naturally, you might have many questions before meeting with your attorney. You should write them down ahead of time so you don’t forget to get the answers you need. Don’t be embarrassed about looking at notes while you meet with an attorney. The clearer you are and the more information you provide, the better equipped your attorney will be to help you through this divorce. 

Some of the things you will want to find out from an attorney during your consultation are what you can expect the process to look like and what your attorney is like in the courtroom. Are they an aggressive defender or a calm and steady advocate in the courtroom? 

It’s also important to know what your attorney’s communication style is like. How frequently will they communicate with you throughout the legal process? How often can you contact them and how will they bill you? Find out the costs involved.

In addition to asking questions, you want to bring your honesty to the meeting. Be frank and forthcoming with your attorney about your strengths and weaknesses and ask them how they view your case, your situation, and your likely outcomes. 

Documents, records (evidence!)

When it comes to bringing relevant and important documentation to show your divorce attorney, the more the better. There are a lot of documents that are important to show your attorney and that can be used as evidence on your behalf down the line

Financial records are important, particularly in joint accounts. Remember, you are still responsible for your divorce. This means that while your attorney will help you search for discrepancies in your joint accounts, things that would indicate suspicious withdrawals or payments or transfers, you should also scour these records yourself. 

Any documented agreements with your spouse need to be at the top of this pile too. If you have a prenuptial agreement (prenup), bring it with you as that is a paramount legal document during a divorce. 

Evidence of problems is also important. If your divorce is taking place under particularly messy circumstances, you need to be ready, and your lawyer does too. Threatening messages, abusive voicemails, crazy screenshots, photographs showing illegal or dangerous actions by your spouse, evidence of destructive or violent behavior, all of that needs to be seen by your lawyer so they can provide you with vital counsel. 

Here are all the basics you want to have covered for your consultation:

  • Goals and questions written down
  • Prenuptial arrangements or other written agreements
  • Joint tax returns or income information
  • Bank account records
  • Physical or photographic evidence of wrongdoing, cheating, harm, or abuse
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Tips for Thriving During a Pandemic

By Michael Ungar, Ph.D.

“While there is much to be worried about during this pandemic, it is also an opportunity to build resilience individually and as a family.

Jessica and Faizal have been married for eight years. On the outside, their lives looked good before the pandemic. Jessica owned a small chain of salons, Faizal was an accountant in a large international firm. When they weren’t working, they travelled or golfed. They had one child, and though Faizal wanted a larger family, Jessica was hesitant to become trapped in the role of mother. Then COVID-19 happened. Jessica’s salons closed, and Faizal’s firm was hinting there’d be no bonuses this year. Without the distraction of work or travel, the couple’s relationship sputtered, and both were secretly speaking with divorce lawyers.

Like any crisis, this pandemic has forced us to examine our relationships and our values. It has stripped the veneer from dysfunctional patterns of coping. We are questioning the sanity of long hours at work or our penchant for living with high levels of household debt. While that reflection can make it seem our life is spiralling out of control, this pandemic is also forcing people to reconsider the things they need to be resilient, not just now, but in the future too.

As tragic as Jessica and Faizal’s lives may seem, the real tragedy is that they hadn’t put in place the personal, social or economic resources they needed for resilience. Resilience is most often described as our personal capacity to bounce back from hardship, and likened to thinking positive thoughts, or persevering under stress (the term ‘grit’ is common). The science of resilience, however, says something quite different. While rugged individuals can cope when their lives are stable, paychecks steady, and family conflict low, people with plenty of resources do much better when times get tough. Jessica might not have been able to control the pandemic, or its impact on her business, but she might have been able to put aside a rainy day fund. Faizal couldn’t have anticipated his loss of annual income either, but he might have invested more energy in his home life as a hedge against the emotional toll a future crisis would have on him and his family.

While research on the pandemic is now being done everywhere, there is plenty of evidence from studies of resilience during natural disasters which shows that most of us are poorly prepared for a major change. As we wait for a vaccine to become widely available and we can open up our economies without risking the lives of those with a compromised immune system, there are steps we can take to thrive during this difficult time.

  1. Put more effort into your relationships. Our individual resilience depends on the security of our relationships with others, including our family, friends and colleagues. The more we pay attention to the needs of others, the more they will pay attention to ours.
  2. Keep your days structured and maintain healthy routines. As the days go on and we struggle with change, one way to maintain good mental and physical health is to impose structure and accomplish the things we should accomplish. Structure and routine are a great way to make our lives feel predictable and increase our feelings of hope for the future.
  3. Get your finances in order. Thinking positive thoughts and being optimistic is easier when our finances are less stressed. If you have been accumulating debt, it is time to reconsider priorities and ask yourself, “Do I want to live with this much pressure?” and “What do I really need to feel happy?”
  4. Find new and powerful identities. As the pandemic continues and we spend less time at our places of business, it is important that we find new ways of showing others the things that are special about us. This is the time to explore hobbies, develop new talents, and share with others the things we like to do.
  5. Look for the spaces and places where you feel you belong. Making a contribution to the welfare of others pays a dividend in goodwill. It also makes us feel like we are part of a community, family, or workplace. The more we feel like we belong, the less likely we are to experience depression or anxiety.

Each of these steps has been shown to help people weather a crisis. For Jessica and Faizal, becoming more resilient has meant putting down their smartphones and eating dinners together as a family. It has meant asking each other for help, first with cutting up credit cards, then with making it possible for each of them to take time every day to exercise and be with family and friends. Jessica used to try to squeeze a walk in between running home to make dinner. Now she asks Faizal to cook dinner so she can spend some time looking after her own needs. If it works, she may even agree to having a second child as the family’s new pattern of caring for one another won’t mean all the responsibility for that decision falls on her shoulders.

Faizal, meanwhile, is taking control of the family’s bank account and rethinking where they live. A large home in the suburbs may bring with it some benefits, but it has also made the family vulnerable and placed them too far in debt. Change is coming, of that he’s sure. The couple are no longer seeking marriage counseling to break up. Now they’re seeing a life coach, together, to rebuild their family and their lives.

The pandemic is taking its toll, but like other disasters, it is causing many of us to rethink what we value and change the world around us so we can come back stronger.”

Michael Ungar, Ph.D., is a Family Therapist and Canada Research Chair in Child, Family and Community Resilience at Dalhousie University. His latest best-selling book is Change Your World: The Science of Resilience and the True Path to Success. More about Dr. Ungar: www.michaelungar.com

Handling an Unexpected Divorce

What to do when facing an unexpected divorce?

While things between you and your spouse may not have been perfect, you weren’t expecting to be served with divorce papers, now what?

New York divorce attorney, Leslie Montanile has advice for those in this situation;

  1. Identify the paperwork

    First, do not panic. Look at the papers and see if your spouse filed with a Summons and Complaint or just a Summons with Notice, regardless look at the end of the document served or on the face of the summons to see if your spouse is represented by an attorney or if he/she is representing themselves – this is called Pro Se.

    If there is a law firm identified, you will want to immediately find your own lawyer as you typically only have 20 days to respond to the Complaint – this is called filing an Answer.  If you are not able to find a lawyer in that time frame, don’t worry.  You can respond by going to the Court website listed on the document and find the Answer form (usually there are directions on the Court website to do this on your own) once you find a lawyer, they can amend the answer you filed, if necessary.

    If there is only a Summons with Notice, you will want to file a demand for Complaint from your spouse, which should also be done within the 20-day time frame. It is essential to respond in either case so that your spouse is not awarded a default judgment (for your failure to respond) for divorce.

  2. Manage your finances.

    Next, if you have a joint bank account with your spouse you will want to go to the bank and take out your share, usually 50%, should you withdraw more you may have to give that back to your spouse at a later date. Open a new bank account at a different bank and consider getting a safety deposit box for relevant documents and other valuables you may have.

    If you receive your bills electronically, change your passwords.  If you receive your mail at home, then perhaps you want to consider getting a P.O. Box that comes with a street address.

    Collect all of your financial information as soon as possible; mortgage payments, tax returns, utility bills, credit card debt, cars, insurance, etc. If done electronically, make sure to print out statements from each item in case your spouse changes the passwords.

  3. Protect your privacy.

    Set up a new e-mail account to use exclusively with your lawyer. Do not use your cell phone as a weapon of self-destruction – refrain from texting anything about your relationship to anyone. Text messages can be revealed during a divorce action, so think twice before your hit send. Stay off of ALL social media, especially if you have children. Anything you put on social media can be used in a divorce action, and while you may think it is harmless, it is often not construed that way. Social media will still be around when your divorce is finalized.

Finally, take a deep breath and look towards your future- if your spouse did not respect you enough to inform you of their desire to end your marriage, then, in the long run, you will be better off without them and know that you will find love again with the right partner.

Find more information about Leslie here.

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Have a Fairy Tale Wedding, But Beware: In Fairy Tales, Brides Suffer After “I Do”

Anne Beall, Ph.D. 

Disney and Allure Bridal have joined forces to create a line of Disney-themed wedding dresses to “[turn] fairy tale dreams into reality for brides.”  The dresses, says the Allure Bridals website, “capture the style and spirit of Disney Princess characters.” 

But hold on…why, exactly, would a bride want to be a princess in a fairy tale marriage? 

It turns out that although fairy tale weddings may be wonderful, fairy tale marriages are not. My firm analyzed 169 Grimms’ fairy tales, which are the precursors to all major fairy tales today.  This collection includes the most beloved ones such as Cinderella and Snow White. We used statistical methods to identify patterns and determine what fairy tales are really saying; what we learned suggests that fairy tale marriages are doomed.  

Four hidden messages we uncovered help explain why.

Men Should Have Agency and Power, Women Should Be Kind and Weak  

In many fairy tales, a beautiful kind woman is abused, often by a witch or stepmother, and then saved by a prince or king who whisks her away to his kingdom where they marry shortly thereafter.  What’s implicit in many of these stories is that the partners are not equal in power, agency or status. For example, Cinderella brings her good looks and a kind heart to the relationship whereas the prince brings wealth, power and a high-status position. Thus, fairy tales tell men and women that they should not be looking for their equal. 

Men Are Valued for Their Actions, Women Are Valued For Their Looks 

Marrying up is not without its flaws. When male characters marry royalty, 100% of the time it’s the result of their actions—feats of bravery, defeating armies, and killing giants. However, female characters marry royalty most of the time because they’re beautiful.  Thus, fairy tales tell women to focus on their appearance and tell men to focus on being smart and brave.  

Only Evil Women Have Control Over Their Lives 

Fairy tales also have a great deal to say about power and control after the wedding.  Princesses were the most powerful character only 12% of the time followed by queens who were the most powerful character only 3% of the time. So, if becoming a princess or queen through marriage, looks glamorous, in fairy tale land it comes with a lack of power. 

Interestingly the female characters in fairy tales who have power are stepmothers and witches.  Characters like Cinderella’s stepmother, the witch in Hansel and Gretel and many other nefarious female characters are the females who are powerful.  These stories suggest that power is the province of good men (princes and kings) or evil women (witches and stepmothers). 

After “I Do” Kings and Princes are Happy But Queens are Sad

Not surprisingly, male and female royalty have different emotions in fairy tale marriages. Queens are the characters who tell us about what it’s like being married to royalty: they are accused of terrible crimes by other women who long to take their place, or it’s the woman’s mother in law who is trying to get her removed. In these stories, the king determines her fate and many queens are banished or given death sentences. 

Given the horrendous things that happen to queens, it’s no surprise that the most common emotion they express is sadness (41%). In contrast, the most common expressions that kings and princes express is happiness.  Approximately 41% of king’s expressions and 56% of princes’ expressions are happy ones. 

So, have a fairy tale wedding and feel free to wear a princess dress.  Just be wary about how fairy tales and the implicit assumptions they carry about equality, desirable attributes in a spouse, and power don’t lead to happily ever after—even in fairy tale land. 

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Anne E. Beall, PhD is the CEO and Founder of Beall Research, Inc, a consulting firm that uses data and research to discover trends and create solutions for Fortune 500 companies. Author of Cinderella Did Not Live Happily Ever After and 7 other books on fairy tales, gender dynamics, human-animal relations, and market research, Anne previously worked for the Boston Consulting Group (BCG). She received her MS, MPhil, and PhD from Yale University. A lover of cats, storytelling, and walking, Anne lives in Chicago. 

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Online Communication and Serious Relationship 

Attitude to dating via the Internet is very ambiguous. Some people believe that this is a waste of time, while others celebrate their wedding with soul mates, which they found via the Internet. Only one thing can be said with confidence,  the popularity of dating websites is growing day by day. The explanation for this is simple – this is the way people can communicate with other people from any country, any age, and social status, which means they can increase their own chances by many times to find a person with similar interests and tastes. 

Does Online Dating have a Chance for a Relationship Future? 

Surely many have heard stories from friends about how they found their partners or spouses via the Internet. Many men try to find single women online as really successful men frequently don’t have too much time for searching women in real life. However, not always people use specialized websites. There are many people who have met using social networks or started correspondence in messengers. The Internet has firmly rooted in our lives. People work and relax using the web o why not use it to find a life partner? The effectiveness of online dating is confirmed by a series of experiments. The British psychologist Gavin J. made research. Volunteers, who helped the scientist evaluate the effectiveness of online dating were the young people aged between 19 to 26 who were ready for serious relationships. Their task was to register on a dating website in order to find a partner. At the end of the experiment, 72 percent of the participants continued close communication in real life, and some of them later even got married.

Statistics show that more than one-third of the World Wide Web users at least once used the services of dating websites. Every day, more than one and a half million people spend on such portals for about 4 hours or even more. At the same time, the number of men and women registered on these websites is approximately equal.

Why People Prefer Oline Communication

Why every year more and more people take this opportunity, preferring it to live communication? 

Accessibility – no need to spend time attending any events, just have a gadget and Internet access. 

Timezone Flexibility – no matter how much time is on the watch, customers can get acquainted both day and night. It’s easy to find someone from another time zone. The Internet significantly expands the boundaries of dating. 

Answering Later – messages should not be answered immediately. There will always be some time to consider the best answer and find an approach to the interlocutor. Communication with Several People at once – getting started online is much easier than in real life – a great solution for shy people. Unsuitable people can be filtered out by age, profession, and interests. 

Some Online Dating Disadvantages 

But it is worth considering the disadvantages of dating via the Internet:

  • The user profile not always says true information about its owner. For example, a 45-year-old thrice-divorced lady can hide behind a photo of a young girl;
  • The real communication is indispensable. Even after a long correspondence, the relationship can be broken if a pair will not meet in real life. However, this minus is very conditional: even the shyest people, as a rule, decide to meet;
  • There is some risk to be deceived by criminals – not all users are really looking for a partner, some are in search of victims. This is perhaps the most significant minus of network communication;
  • Never transfer money to new Internet acquaintances, and before the first date, tell someone from your relatives where you are going to go and with whom, do not make appointments in uninhabited places, charge your phone and do not have high hopes of meeting you in order to avoid disappointment. 

A certain amount of humour, elementary caution, and a bit of patience and you will definitely find a partner of your life with the help of dating websites. Stop being single and register already now. 

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4 Signs How To Know You Are A Perfect Match

Are we compatible? This is a very vital question anyone in a relationship ought to ask, especially if the relationship gets serious. But unfortunately, some couples carry on with each other and blinded to the fact that they’re not a relationship match. So we see them move from “wedding congratulations” to “I want a divorce” in a heartbeat. 

So if you’re still in the relationship stage, pause today and ask your self — how compatible are we? Do we make a good couple or are we a good match? With these in mind, step into this post and let’s talk, showing you strong compatibility signs. 

Strangers like friends

Have you ever experienced a vibing with someone that’s so natural you get lost in the convo? You only met them for the first time, but your flow is so seamless, it feels you’ve known forever. You don’t run out of things to talk about and you feel so relaxed that you are yourself around them. You’re so comfortable around them that you find yourself talking about stuff you’ll naturally shy away from with others.

That’s a very strong sign right there that you shouldn’t ignore. Although there is more to being compatible that having great flow together. It’s something to note if you’re considering getting serious. This is because spending your life with someone you can’t have a great conversation with will make you miserable. 

Again, if you have to be so cautious around them or go silent because there’s nothing to talk about. Then you’ve not found your partner. Keep looking and don’t settle, there’s someone for you. 

You love talking about the same things

Although variety is the spice of life, in relationships you have to be as similar as possible. We mean, loving almost the same things. How about a situation where everything your partner talks about leaves you cold. Neither of you has interests in what the other enjoys doing. No single area of overlap for both of you. That’s a disaster waiting to happen. 

When a couple share love for the same topics and discourse, they don’t need to try keeping convos alive. They both get excited and engrossed with whatever they’re talking about. The conversations take a life of its own and the time keeps running. 

Have you ever had a chat with a friend and you’re not in a hurry to end it? Or you look at the time and it’s hours since you started talking? And you don’t know where the time went. That’s compatibility and it gives you something to look forward to.

They take humor as good as they can give 

A great sense of humor plays a vital role in every healthy relationship. Listen to some couples we tag “bae goals” and you’d always hear, he/she makes me laugh. Forever is too long to live with a straight face all the time. Your partner should be able to make you laugh till your muscles hurt. They should also be able to undertake your jokes and deal with the witty part of you.

A lot of people are quite sensitive and can never take a joke to save their lives. They either get offended when jokes are made or they just mope at you because they don’t get it. If you’re blessed with wit and are very goofy, please keep moving.

You’ve not found the one, because people like this will kill your vibe. They will suppress your bubbly spirit. You need all the humor in the world to get by each day. 

Their personality is perfect for you 

We all have that friend that’s so perfect we feel very comfortable with them. We can tell them everything and do everything them, but…  They remain in the friend zone. We are not even tempted to cross the boundaries of friendship into anything more serious. This is simply saying they have a great personality but they aren’t perfect for you. 

Then there are other people who have great personalities. We want to do everything with them and be with them always. We want to wake up to them and get into something serious, including visiting base without remorse. They say something and it’s so funny to you. You see the best in every one of their little gestures.

They awaken the butterflies in your tummy with their personalities. They do things that seem ordinary to others but amazing to you, and you know that they’re perfect. That’s it! Go for it! You found the one! 

“Are we compatible?” is a question everyone in a serious relationship should be asking. See our helpful answers in the post. 

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Capturing the Best Memories: 9 Wedding Photography Tips for Brides and Grooms

With all the planning that goes into your wedding, the actual day often goes by in a flash. The best way to remember it all? Photographs. Getting the perfect photos can feel like a hugely important thing, as they capture all the wonderful elements and details of the big day, and the emotion on everyone’s faces. They are a keepsake you will treasure and something for everyone to look back on. So how do you make sure your photography is done perfectly? Here are a few tips to get the best shots of your big day:

Find the Right Photographer

Possibly the most obvious in this list, finding the right photographer will guarantee you get the lovely photos you want. Any photographer should be skilled and understand what it takes to get good shots, but like all creative jobs, different people create different things. You should look thoroughly at their portfolio to see what kind of style they have and think about the kind of photos you are looking for. You should also look through other people’s wedding photos to see how differently their days have been captured; if there is a particular set of photos you love, you could even hire the same photographer. Go with what speaks to you.

Relax

For some people, being in front of the camera is intimidating and uncomfortable. It can seem unnatural to pose in front of a camera, but you will have to do your best on the day. Some photographers are good at taking photos unnoticed, so you will most likely appear natural in the shots anyway, as you might not even notice your picture being taken. When it comes to getting photos lined up with your friends and family, or side by side with your partner, you might start to feel more pressure. The best thing to do is to focus on your partner and your emotions. Try not to force yourself to pose if it doesn’t come naturally to you. Just pay attention to your partner and you will end up smiling naturally. If you are nervous about it, there are some useful guides on how to pose ‘naturally’ so you can practice a little before the day. Your photographer will probably provide you with some direction too, so once again, try your best to relax.

Plan Ahead

It’s a really good idea to have another visit to your venue and taking your photographer along is even better, as it will give you a chance to take a second look at the space before the big day. You can think more carefully about where your décor will be going, and you can communicate with your photographer about where the best photos can be taken. Remember that lighting changes quite dramatically between day and evening, so you will also have to make sure you plan the timing well. Some people even get their photos taken before the ceremony, to guarantee perfect couple-shots.

Photo Opportunities

Getting the photos that you want may also mean choosing the right venue. If you know you want photos with a natural backdrop, you need a venue that has gardens. If you want a city backdrop, then you need an inner-city venue. You are sure to get beautiful wedding photos at NYC’s Tribeca roof if a backdrop of the city is what you want. When picking your venue, make sure you consider the potential for great photography. Having great views in the background will make your photos even more special.

Bring Props and Get Creative

If you know you want to have some more playful shots, plan ahead and bring along items you may want in your photos. If your partner is an avid cyclist, perhaps you could get a fun shot of you both on a bike? Once again, think carefully and discuss these ideas with your photographer. There will already be lots of great photo opportunities within your venue with all the décor and things going on, but it doesn’t hurt to prepare some extra scene-setting extras too.

Photo Booth

Some people like to set up a makeshift photo-booth or space where your guests can take silly or fun shots together, which will add another set of photos into your album. It’s a good idea to get some extra photos taken from the perspective of your friends and family, and they can be included in the guestbook as a personal touch. Leaving a polaroid camera by the guestbook will give your guests a chance to take a fun snap to go with their messages.

Enlist Family and Friends

Another idea is to give a camera to each of the bride or groom’s parties, to document the ‘getting ready’ process. Try not to rely on one specific person, as this will put pressure on them to work rather than enjoy the day. But having cameras available lets people have fun and get involved, some of your friends and family members may love having an opportunity to pick up the camera and take their own shots.

Sharing Photos

Setting up a space for all the photos your guests do take makes it easier to collate them all together. You should try setting up an online place using a sharing platform such as Dropbox or Google Drive. This will allow people to upload their photographs and videos into one album and it can be viewed by everyone. It will mean you get to see everything from the day, and no photos get lost or disappear.

Keepsakes

The photos you have from your big day will be super special and a great way to keep them together is by creating an album. There are some great companies that can print your photos into a photo-book or album so that you can flip through your favorite shots. They would also make a lovely gift to parents if you think that’s something they would appreciate. Getting a book or film made from your photos from the day could also be something your photographer offers, so make sure to ask them about this. They may be able to recommend their favorite companies too.

Any photos that are taken of your big day will be special, but these tips should help you make sure you get those perfect pictures worth framing. With the day being so busy, you may not even get the chance to take everything in, so having those photos to look back at is such an important and meaningful thing. With all of these things taken care of, you can just enjoy your day and trust that your photos will turn out beautifully.

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5 Ways to Enjoy Morro Bay

The crowds are gone, the sunsets are as breathtaking as ever, and the weather in this seaside town of Morro Bay is extraordinary – which is why locals call October and November Morro Bay “Secret Season”. In the fall the coast is clear, sunny, and warm, and this years Secret Season is infused with new ways to enjoy Morro Bay. The opening of Port House, a new waterfront restaurant, the new Fire Pits at Morro Rock, and the new Estero Adventures are bringing smiles to everyone’s faces this fall. On top of miles of beaches and the unavoidably beautiful 576-foot tall volcanic rock sitting at the front of a bustling harbor filled with sailboats, kayakers, pelicans, sea lions and otters, here are 5 new and fun ways to enjoy Morro Bay this fall.

1) Dinner with a Sunset View at the NEW Port House Restaurant

Soak up the amazing sunsets while you drink hand crafted cocktails and dine on California coastal cuisine with an Italian flairߞand really great steaksߞat the new Port House Restaurant. That’s how executive chef Joe White describes the menu at this new eatery that recently opened on Morro Bay’s Embarcadero at 885 Embarcadero, the former site of Otter Rock Cafe. The location has been completely renovated with a nautical theme throughout, expanded waterfront seating, overstuffed couches and a beautiful bar, this restaurant is a new addition to the fine dining establishments in the middle of the Embarcadero. Don’t miss out on the Port House’s weekend brunches or rent out the entire location for your holiday party! Specialty drinks recipes like this one called the Port House will make any occasion special. Port House Cocktail, basil Hayden’s bourbon, 20 yr port, bitters, luxardo cherry, straight up. Delish!

As well as renovating the entire building, there’s also a NEW marina waterside at the Port House. The marina consists of five new docks, and a newly installed kayak and standup paddleboard launch area. Tiki bar tours, whale watching excursions, a charter boat company offering deep sea fishing excursions, and boat rentals are located only steps away from your delicious Port House. There’s even space for transient boaters, so you can cruise over for excellent food and a table by the window.

2) Enjoy the NEW Morro Rock Fire Pits

An excellent way to witness the stunning sunset is to take your surfboard at dusk and surf Morro Rock’s epic waves. Afterwards, enjoy an evening bonfire at the city’s new Morro Rock Fire Pits that overlook the beach or the bay, where you can stargaze to the sound of the waves cashing on the shore or enjoy watching the sea otter families in the harbor as they dive and dine on local shell fish. Sprawling from the base of Morro Rock to the north, Morro Beach is perfect for playing, beach combing or taking a cruise on a beach cruiser from Beachfront Kites and Surreys. Morro Bay’s Harbor Department also offers beach wheelchairs for people who are mobility challenged. Call the harbor department at (805) 772-6254, let them know when you’ll arrive and they will bring the equipment to you at the Morro Rock parking lot.

3) Cruise the Bay or the Boardwalk with the NEW Estero Adventures

Estero Adventures is a one stop for active adventurers offering a large selection of outdoor activities including electric pontoon boats, kayaks, standup paddleboards, and fat-tire beach bike rentals. Perfect for making memories and going on adventures, Estero Adventures is conveniently located along the Embarcadero inside the Estero Inn. The dock is located right in front of the Inn, close to the sand spit with an easy launch area perfect for all skill levels.

4Romantic Engagements abound in Morro Bay

We must mention that in Morro Bay, being home to two oyster farms that deliver local oysters to restaurants throughout town, romance and getting paramours in the mood for love is kind of our thing. Romance reaches new heights at the iconic Morro Rock, especially if you or your future someone is expecting a “big rock” for their engagement ring and want the perfect Insta location. The blufftop of Black Hill is a memorable location to pop the question, and with panoramic views of the Pacific Ocean and Morro Rock Éc;Yes!Éd; will definitely be the answer. Or, take the engagement to the water on a tour of the bay while cruising the harbor with Chablis Cruises, a 50-foot, two-story riverboat serving up elegant brunches and beautiful views, perfect for dropping that ring in a glass of champagne. Want something more traditional? Windows on the Water or the Galley offer beautiful waterfront settings for any engagement, offering floor to ceiling views of the bay from their restaurants, patios and lounges. For those who’d like to say “I do” at any of Morro Bay’s amazing venues, Toes-In-the-Sand Weddings will help take care of everything.

5) FUN Outdoor Patios Great for Dining and Sunsets

Morro Bays restaurants serve up a bounty of produce and award-wining California wines grown in nearby farms and vineyards from Paso Robles to Edna Valley, not to mention the abundance of fresh local seafood caught by Morro Bay’s multi-generational fishing families. Find a plethora of great places to eat and drink featuring outdoor patios like Bayside Cafe, a hidden gem located next to the Marina in Morro Bay’s own California State Park, or Dorn’s Original Breakers Cafe, a Morro Bay favorite since 1942. Downtown, Pizza Port has an amazing yard for family games and outdoor dining and Shine Cafe, offers vegan and vegetarian street side patio dining under the city lit trees that line Morro Bay Boulevard. Blue Sky Bistro sits right on the water’s edge above the Morro Bay Marina and, offer al fresco dinning. And, let’s not forget Morro Bay’s local seafood markets that double as fantastic seafood restaurants: Tognazzini’s Dockside, Too and Giovanni’s Fish Market & Galley. They offer fantastic menus and patio seating with views of wildlife, kayakers, and fishing boats coming in from a long day at sea. Additional waterfront locations with patios that offer a wide variety of cuisine include Thai Bounty & MIlanes Cuban Cuisine, Lil Hut, Hofbrau and Beach Burger, so donߣt wait any longer if you are hungry for great patio dining, Morro Bay is the spot!

For more information about visiting the seaside town during the secret season, check out www.morrobay.org !

Party dresses: Tips for achieving homecoming dresses look!

I bet one of the first things you think about when you receive an invitation: “What clothes will I wear?” After all, there are so many choices for party dresses, each with style, neckline, length, color and prints … It seems impossible to know which marriage is the best for you, right?

It turns out that the answers to your questions are simpler than you think. It’s even in your own hands: in a wedding invitation.

The invitation informs the location of the ceremony, time and even party style. From this information, you can choose a suitable and extraordinary model.

Want to see how easy it is to get it? Here are some examples of clothes that will be worn for each type of wedding. But…whatever your choice, you should buy from the right place. If you want to buy online, JJ’s House should be one of the best places.

Classic Wedding Party Dresses

Because it is at night, the classic wedding asks for a long party dress, but nothing is too flashy. It must be elegant and sophisticated in the smallest detail. You can use from the most vibrant tones to paste. The important thing is that the dress attracts attention by itself. You can use brightness, but without excessive. You can use accessories only, more than that it is not elegant. Other guests will pay attention to you and the bride does not like it.

Party Dresses for Modern Weddings

Because of its modern wedding, you can bet calmly on fashion models, with different pieces and bright colors. Lengths range from short, approximately knee height (shorter than this is considered inappropriate for marriage). The choices change according to your style and what’s fashionable.

Party Dresses For Rustic Weddings

Light dress, with prints and lace. Nothing is too flashy, but be different and cheerful – just like a rural wedding. Think of it this way: if it’s a long party dress, you can use a fine bright color print or model. In short, choose a knee-high model, with different pieces or even lace.

Also, prefer skirts that are lighter and slimmer. What about investing in trends?

Tips for printing: Don’t buy a knit dress. Never! They are not elegant enough for a wedding. Models with more floral or embroidered fabrics are the best choice.

Wedding Party Dresses in the Field

For rural weddings, choose dresses that are light and elegant. Flat models with different cutouts, even clothes, are the best choice. The length of the dress varies according to the time of the celebration. Remember: during the day, short clothes. In the afternoon and long afternoons it is better. This party is closer to the classic. Many brides bet on weddings in the field with luxurious details.

Wedding Party Dresses on the Beach

Beach weddings can have models of all types, provided they do not have brightness. Short and transparent models are the best. Because the weather will be very hot, you need to choose a “fresh” model to enjoy the party without feeling hot.

If in doubt, bet on a simple party dress

This is the joker for any wedding. Simple party dresses are suitable for all types of parties. We suggest you to consider two piece homecoming dresses. You can also distinguish through accessories. For example, the better the party, the brighter and more sophisticated your accessories. And more simply, fewer accessories. Balance style and that’s it!

How to Plan a Successful Vacation with Your Other Half

Travel cannot only allow you to soak up different cultures and experience new sights and sounds, but it can potentially bring you and your spouse closer together. However, the destination you pick, the itinerary you create and the activities you choose can determine whether a break is a success or failure.

To ensure you both look back on a trip with much fondness, read the below advice on how to plan a successful vacation with your other half.

Choose a Destination to Suit You Both

While you might have your heart set on a destination, you should never push your idea onto your other half, or you could completely ruin their travel experience. Instead, you must choose a location that suits both your needs, which will ensure have an unforgettable time together.

Select the Right Mode of Transportation

Once you have chosen a destination together, you will next need to select the right mode of transport for you both. For example, if you are enjoying a vacation at home, you could jump into your car and enjoy a fun road trip.

If, however, you are traveling overseas or to the opposite end of the country, browse the market for the best flight times for your needs. However, if you are heading to Texas, you could add a little romance and luxury into your journey with a private jets Dallas flight.

Take Advantage of Travel Perks

Are you and your other half celebrating a milestone anniversary or honeymoon? Inform hotel staff once you arrive at your accommodation. As a result, you might receive:

• a complimentary room upgrade

• a bottle of champagne

• a free meal at the hotel’s restaurant

Enjoy Some Alone Time

Conflict can easily arise when you spend every waking minute together. Rather than allowing tension to bubble, it is beneficial to enjoy a little time apart on vacation.

For example, take a walk to the store alone, enjoy a dip in the pool while your partner reads a book, or go for a siesta to recharge your batteries. The short break away will also provide some time to miss your other half, so you will feel happier when you come back together.

Prioritize Activities

It is likely you and your partner will have a list of activities you want to experience at a destination. To ensure you each get to tick an attraction off your bucket list, you must both state the places or things you would like to see/do during a getaway. You must then prioritize attractions to maximize your time and prevent conflict.

Conclusion

A vacation will provide you and your partner with an opportunity to strengthen your connection, which can help your relationship to stand the test of time.

However, to enjoy a getaway together, you must choose your transportation wisely, take a short break from each other from time to time, and be willing to compromise. If you follow the above top tips, it is likely you will enjoy a romantic, hassle-free vacation from start to finish.