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Babe Wine

Living with your partner during quarantine seems to go one of two ways. Either you become closer than ever and realize you’re meant to be, or you decide you’re just not that into them (like, why do they eat yogurt during a Zoom meeting?!) and that you need to break up… like, yesterday. 

BABE Wine and Bumble (who just hit 100 million users in July) are teaming up for the first time to cover your moving costs if you’re stuck living with your ex, so you can sip and scroll while they do the heavy lifting – literally. 

From today, Thursday, July 30 through Thursday, August 6, those who are newly single and looking for a fresh start can tag themselves (or a friend who’s newly single) in BABE’s post on @drinkbabe to be entered into the contest. Five winners will be chosen from the comments, and they’ll officially be one step closer to moving on.

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24KGoldn – “Mood”

24KGOLDN AND IANN DIOR PLAY IT COOL IN NEW SONG “MOOD” 

West Coast rapper/singer 24kGoldn has teamed up with Iann Dior to release their new collaboration, “Mood” Bending fresh guitar licks around a pumping bass line, the power duo play it cool as they each lend their melodic voices to the fun new track.

“Mood” ft. Iann Dior follows Goldn’s previous singles “Unbelievable” ft. Kaash Paige and “City Of Angels,” which is featured on his Dropped Outta College EP. The eight tracks collectively demonstrate his breadth of talent and tells the story of his life as a budding artist and a college student at USC – exploring the emotions, relationships, and desires he felt at the time. Listen to Dropped Outta College in full HERE.

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Peaceful Relationships in Turbulent Times

3 Steps You Can Start Using Right Away

Are these scary times taking a toll on your most intimate relationship?

If so, you’re not alone.

Fear and stress can lead to impatience and anger. And before you know it, you’re in a gut-wrenching argument with the person you love—right when you need each others’ support and companionship the most. 

Then if these painful disconnects go unresolved, you can find yourselves drifting apart. In China, the divorce rate shot up when quarantines were relaxed, and we’re already hearing the same in this country.

But it’s not from spending too much time together in the current lockdown. It’s because we’re not good at maintaining true closeness when we’re frightened.

From decades of helping people have happier, more fulfilling relationships, we offer these three steps for alleviating fear and amplifying love—even in highly stressful times. 

Step #1: De-escalate yourself—before you try to de-escalate the argument

It’s natural to want to de-escalate the friction between you right away. But we recommend focusing on de-escalating yourself first.

This is not just taking a few breaths or counting to ten, although that’s useful. It’s a deliberate shift in your self-talk that dissolves your distress enough that your caring heart and clear mind come back to the forefront. 

It starts with noticing what’s going on inside you and then naming it for what it is. 

For instance, as soon as you recognize that you’re upset, you might say to yourself: “Yikes. My stomach is in knots. I’m raising my voice. I’m reacting as if the person in front of me is an enemy, not my beloved. I obviously got triggered and might be over-reacting… Hmmm…” 

When you do that, your neurobiological self starts calming your inner fear-fest and restoring your ability to think clearly and connect warmly—which puts you in the right place to approach your partner again

One way to know you’re ready to reconnect is that your desire to get back to love will be louder than your impulse to be defensive and right.

Step #2 — Restore the loving connection between you—before you get into a conversation

It’s so tempting to launch into discussing whatever went awry so you can fix it quickly. But don’t! 

The pain of an argument comes from the disconnect between the two of you—not from the issue that triggered it.  

Here’s our favorite way to restore our connection before we talk: 

Whoever’s ready first (that was usually Paige early on) approaches the other gently and says: “I’m sorry for my part.” And then Don would say: “I’m sorry for my part, too.” And as you might imagine, the distance would melt, and within seconds we were in the full embrace of love again.

Of course, this only works when it’s 100% genuine, and it might take some practice to discover what works for the two of you. But when you do, the subsequent conversations will go much better.

Step #3 —  Listen and speak to create deeper understanding—before discussing what to do next time

We got this step very wrong in our early years. 

As soon as we were back in sync, we’d start talking about what to do differently—thinking that’s how we’d avoid reigniting the problem. Logical, yes. But it usually backfired. We’d start arguing again, or, if we agreed on a solution, it wouldn’t stick.

In time, we found that a real resolution only emerged from a full conversation. That meant having a compassionate, level-headed exchange where the goal of our listening and our speaking was to understand each other better. 

This requires listening with a genuine curiosity about your partner’s experience of whatever went awry and why it was so upsetting. When practiced with patience, this kind of listening makes it safe for your beloved to speak openly and honestly.

Your speaking also wants to be compassionate. Meaning, while being honest about what upset you, you’re choosing language and tonality that are easy for your beloved to hear without getting triggered again. That means describing your feelings and perspective without blame.  

Pitfall alert!

During this mindful make-up conversation—especially in these ultra-stressful times—it’s easy to slip back into criticizing your partner, defending yourself, or shutting down again. If that’s what happens (which we know it can) just go back to Step #1. De-escalating yourself again, and then… You get the idea.

These three steps—de-escalating yourself first, then restoring your loving connection, followed by listening and speaking for deeper understanding—provide a framework for creating patterns of communication that yield an ever-deepening bond of love. 

We know the quest can be messy, especially now. Still the potential for experiencing new dimensions of extraordinary love is well worth it.

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Paige Marrs, PhD, and Don Marrshave been joyfully married for over 33 years and have worked together since the day they joined their lives. They co-authored two how-to memoirs, both of which teach through story. Their most recent book, Grabbing Lightning: The Messy Quest for an Extraordinary Lovereveals their messy, intimate journey to a love greater than either of them knew to reach for. Paige and Don have offered their program, The Love Conversation® Approach, for more than a decade to provide couples and singles the tools needed to resolve their challenges so they can experience the depth of love they yearn for. You can learn more or sign up for their newsletter, LoveNotes, at www.TheLoveConversation.com.

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Dating Someone Internationally

Tips On How To Help Improve Your Partner’s Chances of Getting A Green Light On Their Green Card

By Jeana Jaeger

It’s no surprise that more people are now dating internationally or outside of their ethnic group, especially since Social Media, Dating Apps and even Online Gaming are playing a huge role in making love connections across borders. However, the latest national policies may now make it more difficult for couples to secure a visa or green card if they want to live together in the United States. In fact, some of the most recent data shows that thousands of green card applications during fiscal year 2019 were not approved, meaning that it may be a little tougher for foreign born citizens to obtain a visa or green card. Since international dating will continue to be on the rise, it’s important for couples to truly understand how to legally navigate the rules.

To help improve your chances of receiving an approval, there are several tips that can help move the process along in the right direction. First, a big part of the process involves completing the necessary paperwork. Before submitting, you need to make sure you have all of the required and correct documents with the necessary signatures. Couples have to prove they have day-to-day contact and constant communication, and that they have physically met in person within the last two years of filing. When it comes to communication, it helps to show there is not a language barrier where neither partner speaks the other language, or you need to detail how you work around that obstacle.

Another important factor is that if one partner was previously married, they need to make sure the divorce is completely finalized. Regarding the blending of cultures, the government will look to see if you adhere to cultural norms such as if you had an engagement ceremony that is customary to the local culture.

When it comes to the in-person interview, it’s of utmost importance to make sure everything you say is factual and correct. The interview is your chance to tell your love story, make them understand and see how real and special your relationship is. If you lie or fail to present accurate information, your green card could be denied. Fake or photoshopped photos are also considered fraudulent evidence, which may lead to a denial.

Even though times are frightening due to recent immigration changes, true love can still prevail. The most important takeaways to keep in mind throughout the process is to provide the correct documents and factual information on time, per government requirements.

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Online Communication and Serious Relationship 

Attitude to dating via the Internet is very ambiguous. Some people believe that this is a waste of time, while others celebrate their wedding with soul mates, which they found via the Internet. Only one thing can be said with confidence,  the popularity of dating websites is growing day by day. The explanation for this is simple – this is the way people can communicate with other people from any country, any age, and social status, which means they can increase their own chances by many times to find a person with similar interests and tastes. 

Does Online Dating have a Chance for a Relationship Future? 

Surely many have heard stories from friends about how they found their partners or spouses via the Internet. Many men try to find single women online as really successful men frequently don’t have too much time for searching women in real life. However, not always people use specialized websites. There are many people who have met using social networks or started correspondence in messengers. The Internet has firmly rooted in our lives. People work and relax using the web o why not use it to find a life partner? The effectiveness of online dating is confirmed by a series of experiments. The British psychologist Gavin J. made research. Volunteers, who helped the scientist evaluate the effectiveness of online dating were the young people aged between 19 to 26 who were ready for serious relationships. Their task was to register on a dating website in order to find a partner. At the end of the experiment, 72 percent of the participants continued close communication in real life, and some of them later even got married.

Statistics show that more than one-third of the World Wide Web users at least once used the services of dating websites. Every day, more than one and a half million people spend on such portals for about 4 hours or even more. At the same time, the number of men and women registered on these websites is approximately equal.

Why People Prefer Oline Communication

Why every year more and more people take this opportunity, preferring it to live communication? 

Accessibility – no need to spend time attending any events, just have a gadget and Internet access. 

Timezone Flexibility – no matter how much time is on the watch, customers can get acquainted both day and night. It’s easy to find someone from another time zone. The Internet significantly expands the boundaries of dating. 

Answering Later – messages should not be answered immediately. There will always be some time to consider the best answer and find an approach to the interlocutor. Communication with Several People at once – getting started online is much easier than in real life – a great solution for shy people. Unsuitable people can be filtered out by age, profession, and interests. 

Some Online Dating Disadvantages 

But it is worth considering the disadvantages of dating via the Internet:

  • The user profile not always says true information about its owner. For example, a 45-year-old thrice-divorced lady can hide behind a photo of a young girl;
  • The real communication is indispensable. Even after a long correspondence, the relationship can be broken if a pair will not meet in real life. However, this minus is very conditional: even the shyest people, as a rule, decide to meet;
  • There is some risk to be deceived by criminals – not all users are really looking for a partner, some are in search of victims. This is perhaps the most significant minus of network communication;
  • Never transfer money to new Internet acquaintances, and before the first date, tell someone from your relatives where you are going to go and with whom, do not make appointments in uninhabited places, charge your phone and do not have high hopes of meeting you in order to avoid disappointment. 

A certain amount of humour, elementary caution, and a bit of patience and you will definitely find a partner of your life with the help of dating websites. Stop being single and register already now. 

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4 Signs How To Know You Are A Perfect Match

Are we compatible? This is a very vital question anyone in a relationship ought to ask, especially if the relationship gets serious. But unfortunately, some couples carry on with each other and blinded to the fact that they’re not a relationship match. So we see them move from “wedding congratulations” to “I want a divorce” in a heartbeat. 

So if you’re still in the relationship stage, pause today and ask your self — how compatible are we? Do we make a good couple or are we a good match? With these in mind, step into this post and let’s talk, showing you strong compatibility signs. 

Strangers like friends

Have you ever experienced a vibing with someone that’s so natural you get lost in the convo? You only met them for the first time, but your flow is so seamless, it feels you’ve known forever. You don’t run out of things to talk about and you feel so relaxed that you are yourself around them. You’re so comfortable around them that you find yourself talking about stuff you’ll naturally shy away from with others.

That’s a very strong sign right there that you shouldn’t ignore. Although there is more to being compatible that having great flow together. It’s something to note if you’re considering getting serious. This is because spending your life with someone you can’t have a great conversation with will make you miserable. 

Again, if you have to be so cautious around them or go silent because there’s nothing to talk about. Then you’ve not found your partner. Keep looking and don’t settle, there’s someone for you. 

You love talking about the same things

Although variety is the spice of life, in relationships you have to be as similar as possible. We mean, loving almost the same things. How about a situation where everything your partner talks about leaves you cold. Neither of you has interests in what the other enjoys doing. No single area of overlap for both of you. That’s a disaster waiting to happen. 

When a couple share love for the same topics and discourse, they don’t need to try keeping convos alive. They both get excited and engrossed with whatever they’re talking about. The conversations take a life of its own and the time keeps running. 

Have you ever had a chat with a friend and you’re not in a hurry to end it? Or you look at the time and it’s hours since you started talking? And you don’t know where the time went. That’s compatibility and it gives you something to look forward to.

They take humor as good as they can give 

A great sense of humor plays a vital role in every healthy relationship. Listen to some couples we tag “bae goals” and you’d always hear, he/she makes me laugh. Forever is too long to live with a straight face all the time. Your partner should be able to make you laugh till your muscles hurt. They should also be able to undertake your jokes and deal with the witty part of you.

A lot of people are quite sensitive and can never take a joke to save their lives. They either get offended when jokes are made or they just mope at you because they don’t get it. If you’re blessed with wit and are very goofy, please keep moving.

You’ve not found the one, because people like this will kill your vibe. They will suppress your bubbly spirit. You need all the humor in the world to get by each day. 

Their personality is perfect for you 

We all have that friend that’s so perfect we feel very comfortable with them. We can tell them everything and do everything them, but…  They remain in the friend zone. We are not even tempted to cross the boundaries of friendship into anything more serious. This is simply saying they have a great personality but they aren’t perfect for you. 

Then there are other people who have great personalities. We want to do everything with them and be with them always. We want to wake up to them and get into something serious, including visiting base without remorse. They say something and it’s so funny to you. You see the best in every one of their little gestures.

They awaken the butterflies in your tummy with their personalities. They do things that seem ordinary to others but amazing to you, and you know that they’re perfect. That’s it! Go for it! You found the one! 

“Are we compatible?” is a question everyone in a serious relationship should be asking. See our helpful answers in the post. 

Tips for Meeting Someone In-PersonAfter Meeting Online

Online dating is a great way to meet new people. But every opportunity has some disadvantages and risks too. In this article, we will share some tips that will help you on your first meeting.

Be Ready to Meet Her in Person

Meeting her face-to-face should be your priority concern. You need to make sure that the women you met online was the same as you are meeting in the flesh. There is a possibility that the person you are meeting is not what you are expecting.

Plan A Venue

Another important thing to decide is the venue for your meeting. After all, you are meeting for the first time, so make sure you both will have a good time. Both of you are talking online, so there are many things that you may have already revealed during conversions like your favorite places, food, hobbies, activities as well as common interests. If you do not have such information then gather it and find a suitable venue for your first human interaction.

Don’t Be Late

Most women like a punctual man, so don’t be late. Otherwise, it will leave a negative impression that you are unserious about the relationship. The first date is very significant as it will decide which direction your romance will head in. Be ready and try to do everything you can to prove your feelings.

Make Her Feel Comfortable and Safe

Another thing to include to your priority list is the comfort and safety of your woman. Hence, make sure to prefer the activities according to her preferences. You can also ask your girl about the venue for your first date.

Start a Conversation on Positive Topic

Initiating a conversation on your first date is important to know each other. That is why it is important to create a positive atmosphere and talk about things that you both are comfortable with. You can talk about your personal goals and what you are planning in the coming future. You can talk about a person who inspires you. There are lots of topics to talk about but try not to get your date bored.

Table Manners

Whenever you go to your first meeting, it is critical to know the right table manners. Most of the people go on a date at lunch or dinner time. It is substantial to leave an immense impression on your girl that you have table etiquettes and attractive too.

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How You Can Be More Romantic with Your Partner

Have you noticed that your relationship does not involve as much romance as it did in the past? Well, if you have noticed this, then the chances are your partner has also noticed, even though they may not have said anything. Being romantic is something that both partners have to get involved in if you want to keep that magic alive, so it is well worth looking at romantic gestures that can help your relationship.

Being romantic is not about talking dirty or buying anal toys – these are more suited to those looking to improve their physical relationship! Romantic gestures are ones that take thought and effort, and which come from the heart. Fortunately, there are lots of ways in which you can extend romantic gestures to impress your partner, and we will look at some simple yet effective solutions in this article.

Some Steps You Can Take

If you want to inject a little more romance into your relationship and earn some brownie points from your partner into the bargain, there are plenty of options you can consider. One of the things you can do in order to be romantic is to cook your partner a home-cooked meal with all the trimmings as a surprise. And, don’t sit down in front of the TV with your food! Make sure you create a wonderful, romantic setting with fine wine in an ice bucket, candles, soft music, the works. This will create a fabulous intimate restaurant feel but you won’t have to worry about other people cramping your style.

For those who can afford to take a little time out and splash a little cash, booking a romantic trip away as a surprise for your partner is a great idea. If they work, you could even sneakily contact their employer and arrange for the necessary time off, so it comes as a complete surprise. You will find some fabulous romantic breaks to choose from such as spa breaks for couples, beach breaks, perhaps even couples’ camping. The choice is entirely yours but make sure it is something your partner is likely to enjoy before you choose.

If the weather is good, you can always arrange a romantic afternoon picnic with your partner, which is a great way to enjoy some quality time together but won’t cost the earth. If you have a pleasant park or beach near to where you live, you can head there for your relaxing afternoon. If not, you could even set up the picnic blanket in your own garden and enjoy total privacy. You will be able to sit back and chat, enjoy spending time as a couple, nibble on delicious snacks, and enjoy a drink or two.

All of these provide you with romantic and simple solutions to surprising your partner and adding some romance into your relationship. These are steps that will help to show how much you care by the effort and thought you have put into it. 

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Queer Cosmos

Can you believe that to date not one astrology book has been published that is not only inclusive, but also uses psychological approaches to encourage genuine healing and personal and relational growth?


That’s where Queer Cosmos: The Astrology of Queer Identities and Relationships (November 12, 2019) by Colin Bedell comes into play! (But what’s best about the book? While it includes a chapters on Queer Theory, an astrology primer, and real-life testimonies from LGBT folks whose lives have been improved by astrology, the book is really appealing to ANY reader. It’s core focus is to promote love, healing, and feelings of self-worth.)

ABOUT THE BOOK

Queer Cosmos is a contemporary, fresh look into astrology, personal insight, and relationships for the LGBTQ+ community! Astrologer Colin Bedell from Cosmopolitan and QueerCosmos.com has brought together fifteen years of research, client interviews, and astrological mastery to create a spiritual guide for not only resistance and resilience, but also personal insights and relationship compatibility.

Unpacking complex issues like shame and worthiness, Queer Cosmos explores Astrology as an antidote to feelings of hopelessness and provides language for authentic practices of self-expression. Leaving behind gender-normative pronouns and assumptions, Queer Cosmos explores more nuanced patterns of the archetypal energies expressed in queer experiences.

After all, the only way to forge deep, meaningful relationships is to first forge a relationship with yourself. Drawing on research from experts in the field like Dr. Harville Hendrix, Brene Brown, and Esther Perel, Bedell goes deep to provide practical relational theory that can empower readers to find successful and healthy relationships.

ABOUT COLIN BEDELL

Colin Bedell is a gay Gemini Twin from Long Island, NY. His website, QueerCosmos.com, was founded to explore queer identities and issues through the lens of universal spiritual themes and astrology. He graduated from the New School with a Bachelor’s Degree in Literature and a Master’s in Fashion Studies from Parsons School of Design. Colin is the weekly horoscope writer for Cosmopolitan.com, a monthly contributor for Astrology.com, and the author of A Little Bit of Astrology. He’s currently serving as the Vice-President of the Long Island Chapter of the astrological not for profit organization National Council for Geocosmic Research.

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Here’s What You Need to Know About Relationships After 50

We’ll all turn 50 one day. What does this age mean? A farewell to love? Or a new relationship? According to most psychotherapists and sexologists, this is the most beautiful age for expressing the feelings based on knowledge and experience.


Why is the love of 50-year-olds stronger and happier than that of young people?


According to psychologist Alberto Verbio, people of this age have gone through divorces and healed mental wounds and can analyze the reasons for their failures in the past. This is an excellent basis for building new relationships in the future. At this age, it is not hormonal and physical factors that come to the fore but spiritual and physiological ones where the partner is expected to share the spiritual and moral values of the other partner. Certain sexual components are also important but not dominant. For this reason, love for 50-year-olds is stronger, happier, and more stable than at a young age.
Worried that you won’t manage dating sites and meet your soulmate after 50? Dating for seniors is just for you, then.


Liliana Pecora, the actress, co-author and director of the production “Women in Their 50s,” which has been successfully staged in many U.S. theatres, describes love relationships at this age as follows, “Women over 50 already have different conversations. They have a special spiritual world. They are looking for a person who understands this spiritual world and especially the changes, both physical and mental, that a woman of this age is going through. She adds, “Love after 50 is the same as in adolescence but also has significant advantages in that these feelings have more maturity and knowledge. The shiver that you feel on your back when you are caressed by your loved one is the same feeling that you felt when you were 20 years old.”


What problems can love face after 50?


First of all, it should be noted that at this age, it is very difficult to take the first step because of the impact of the negative experience, which influences decision-making. If you consider yourself too old for love in your soul, naturally, you will try to muffle the ardent feelings in yourself.


Another problem faced by 50-year-olds in love lies in the material sphere. Your relationship may be hindered by adult children who fear that your new spouse will have a place to live. Or they want to see in you only a free nurse for grandchildren but not the newlyweds. We can advise only one thing: fight, defend the right to love. Even if you’re over 50, it does not mean that love for you is in the past. Reread once again the above quotations of experts about love after 50 years and enjoy the full range of feelings that can now open up to you.


New relationships after 50: A man’s and a woman’s look


Getting to know a new person for living together after 50 years of age is a stressful time in many people’s lives when they get excited about many things inside. Therefore, it is very important to understand a little bit about the psychological peculiarities of men and women over 50.


How do men perceive acquaintance with men?


It is important to understand that many men are at a loss from their desires, i.e., what kind of woman they want to see next to. First of all, a man needs to receive emotional care from a woman in the form of approval, acceptance, and support. This applies to his daily habits, starting with waking up in the morning, having a traditional breakfast, planning the day, and ending with positive impressions and victories in the evening. Women must take this fact into account because a man is more difficult to reconstruct to a new lifestyle than a more flexible woman.


How do women aged 50 and over perceive acquaintance?


A woman needs to receive signs of admiration from a man for her appearance because they experience their imperfection more deeply compared to the young years of her blossoming beauty. A woman after 50 has usually the material economy and the style of its organization.

Therefore, a man will have to get acquainted during the dates in the pleasant household and leisure traditions of the woman and try them on to their comfortable foundations of life.


The general purpose of acquaintance of men and women after 50 is to create, first of all, a friendly relationship, so it is important not to overstate your requirements to the applicant to be your second half when choosing your companion.