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How to Heal a Strained or Severed Relationship

In Your Personal × Professional Life

By: Allison Kelly Jones, Author of Measure Twice, Cut Once, Navigating Negativity in Toxic Relationships

Sometimes we find ourselves in personal or professional relationships that sour for various reasons, but there are always two players in the strain. Some people continue to engage in “tit for tat” behaviors deploying everything from the silent treatment to guilt or passive/aggressive conduct which is never a good way to “conduct” ourselves. So how do you get past the hurt? How do you reconcile the issues while being true to yourself? How do you “move the needle” towards reconciliation in your personal relationships or resolution in your professional ones?

There are never any innocent bystanders in toxic relationships and being honest about our role in conflict is the first step and it starts with first admitting our behavior in the situation. If a person says or does something to upset you and you swallow your feelings, gossip instead of confronting it or try to ignore it (which causes inner turmoil), you too are playing a role in the dysfunction whether that of a martyr or the passive/aggressive person. An insult or act against you isn’t solely about the other person, so an honest internal check of how it feels in your body is in order and let it be your guide. Decide if you want to nurture the relationship and build or if the relationship has run its course and you may need to cut the relationship with kindness. In my book, “Measure Twice, Cut Once, Navigating Negativity in Toxic Relationships” I discuss the behaviors that identify toxic behaviors in ourselves and others as we decide how to proceed when engaging with difficult people and situations. If you decide to engage and nurture, it starts with forgiveness and forgiveness doesn’t require you to forget the offense, it only matters that you decide to accept that what has happened has occurred and you are letting go of resentment or vindictive thinking or behavior by separating the person from the offense. Taking accountability for your role and communicating how the other person’s behavior affected you and their responsibility for wounding you, doesn’t minimize or validate wrongdoing, it allows you to move into a space of healing. 

Secondly, Look for the good in the person. We all fall from grace and we all need it in our lives at different times. Who hasn’t done something wrong to another person? Lied on someone. Took credit or too much credit for something we shouldn’t have. Said something insensitive. Did something purely out of spite. We would do well to remember that everyone needs grace and hopefully got it. When you are upset with someone, it’s hard to see past an offense and separate the person from the offense, but if you could remember times they were in a more positive light or a time when you were viewed similarly can help reign in feelings of resentment. 

Next, try on some empathy by seeing the other persons point of view because there are always points to ponder from the other side. You are not always right. Keep in mind that our ego wants us want to be unkind, but we should be mindful that compassion can go a long way in being an effective advocate for resolution in any matter, personal or professional. 

Afterwards, identify the real issue. Conflict doesn’t just “pop up” and it seldom comes without warning. There are always behaviors that occur that sow discord over time. The real source of clashing may not be miscommunication, rather it is usually based on perception of an issue. Separating fact from fiction from feelings can help.  Ask yourself what the real issue is that’s bothering you, meaning solid concrete tangible things, e.g., “Allan yells at me at work (Fact) and it feels belittling (Feelings) and people may think I’m weak (Fiction)”. Ask questions of yourself first and then Clarify, Verify and Communicate your need. 

When communicating your need use “I” language because you are only responsible for what is in your span of control. Trying to defuse a situation by pointing fingers usually blows the issue up further. “I’ don’t like when you yell at me” – “I don’t understand what you mean.”  Next, confirm what you are hearing from them. “So, let me make sure I understand” I think what I hear you saying is…”  Communicating what your needs are and listening for the message on the other end is important to resolve the issue or reconcile the relationship. 

Finally, give it time and space if needed. If your attempts at resolution are rejected allow the time and space for the other person to discern, decipher and decide what they would like to do without pressure is important. Next, reach out occasionally and ask for smaller measurements like a 15-minute coffee break or a text as a reminder that you really want to try to resolve the issue. Be consistent until you can’t.  

If all else fails and you have to break from the relationship, let the other person know in a letter or a call/message that you really wanted to move the needle to make everyone comfortable, but your efforts have gone without merit and you are now choosing to let go without resentment.  With family try to offer ongoing family therapy both on your own or together, but have no expectations, simply know that with time all things heal or work out for the greater good because not all relationships are intended to endure. Some are there for a blessing or a lesson, but it’s always for your growth.

BIO: 

Allison Kelly Jones is a southside Chicago native who joined the military after high school and traveled the country as a federal contractor and subject matter expert in human resources, business development and federal personnel programs. She was the on-air talent for her eponymous business show on CBS AM, “The Big Talker” in Washington D.C. Allison spent a vast amount of her career mentoring and coaching many people to personal and business success and has been sought after to deliver powerful and contemporary lectures on topics that engage, empower, and inspire people to live their most genuine and happy lives. Her philosophy is, “we are here to learn who we are and what we are here to do and whatever it is, it is to be shared.” 

Manifestation is truly the only way to have the life you desire most, and Allison instructs people on how to manifest their dreams, doing so as a personal and business coach and also as a professor of business in Arizona.  

For More Information visit HERE.

 “Measure Twice, Cut Once: Navigating Negativity in Toxic Relationships” is available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble

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Catfishing During COVID

new study expects there to be an unprecedented rise in online romance scams this Valentine’s Day, with scammers praying on lonely and isolated people during the pandemic.

Americans lost $201 million to romance scams in 2019, more than any other type of scam. Virginia had the eighth most victims in the nation.  

When the FTC releases the final totals for 2020, they are likely to increase in correlation with surging dating app usage due to more Americans turning online for human connection.

Bumble saw an 84% increase in video calls and Match Group, which owns 60% of the market including Tinder, saw subscriptions increase by 15%.

SocialCatfish.com released a study, Catfishing: A Growing Epidemic During COVID-19, using the most recent data from the FBI’s Internet Crime Complaint Center. It also includes an exclusive seven-minute video interview with a Nigerian scammer, and a 20-page leaked playbook.

The study warns of 5 tactics scammers are using:    

1.     Cannot Meet Because of COVID: The hallmark of a catfish scammer is to come up with excuses of why they cannot meet, such as pretending to be in the military overseas. The pandemic gives them a built-in excuse not to meet.  Be careful.

2.     Will Not Video Chat: The oldest excuse in the book… they cannot video chat with you because their video camera is supposedly “broken”, or they do not have the best access to Wi-Fi. These are red flags.

3.     They Ask You for Money: Once they form an emotional connection with lonely victims, they ask for money. During COVID-19, scammers have begun saying they are sick and need help with treatment, or are low on food, water, and other supplies.

4.     Poor Grammar: If the person claims to be American but has terrible grammar, they may be a scammer.

5.     Confesses Love Quickly: If you are stuck in your house with limited contact with your loved ones, then someone else’s sweet words can win you over. Scammers know that the sooner they win your trust, the sooner they can drain your bank account. Beware of someone who is moving too fast.

5 Ways to Avoid Becoming a Victim:  

1.     Never Give Money: Do not give anyone you meet online money, no matter the reason.

2.     Meet or Video Chat: Do not form a relationship with someone who will not video chat with you or meet you in person. 

3.     Do Not Give Personal Information:  Scammers can use basic information to commit identity fraud, get access to your banks and steal your money.

4.     Conduct Thorough Background Checks: Do not take someone’s word for it.  Use reverse look-up sites to verify information, images, email addresses, phone numbers and online profiles.

5.     Take Things Slow: If you like someone online, do not let them rush you. Nigerian romance scammers will be pushy about falling in love right away. If that is the case, know something is not right.  

All Good Just A Week Ago

If you’re feeling a little bit lonely as a single person during quarantine, there might be a perfect book for you.

For both men and women, “All Good Just A Week Ago: Funny Dating Stories to Help You Keep Your Head in the Game” is chock-full of funny, relatable dating stories put together from interviews.

With teachable moments and unimaginable scenarios, “All Good Just A Week Ago” helps single people keep their heads in the game.

Erika McCall and Niesha Forbes, two best friends, wanted to put their quarantine time to good use, so they set up 50 interviews to gather data and stories for the book.

These stories prove that relationships can make you laugh and roll your eyes instead of cry, all while showing us that we’re not alone.

In 1950, only 22% of Americans were without a romantic partner. In 2019, 124 million Americans were without a partner.

Though the percentage of people in relationships has gone down, the desire to find love and companionship has not.

McCall said, “It’s the year of 20/20 vision, and it’s time for a dating and love revolution.”

Both authors agreed that the revolution begins with this book. With a goal to understand romantic communication and expectations, “All Good Just A Week Ago” uses stories to heal relationships and foster close, loving, committed relationships in a generation obsesses with “hook up culture.”

McCall and Forbes even get into a few of their own stories. McCall herself is single and wants to clear the way for her future husband to enter her life while Forbes is on her way to her third wedding anniversary and hopes that sharing her experience can help bring about mutual respect, kindness and traditional courtship in relationships.

McCall said her story is every woman’s story while Forbes said, “It is critical to know that once you get to a certain age, things you did in your early twenties, all those toxic behavior patterns where you’re not putting your worth above your desire to be with someone, if you don’t do the work on yourself, you will find yourself in your thirties, forties and even fifties, having not learned the important lessons or found true love.”

Following the laughs in the beginning of the book, readers will reach a call to action that encourages men and women to think critically about how to move forward with healthier relationship dynamics.

For more information about the book or to order it, you can click right here.

Rita Azar illustrates relationship article for 360 MAGAZINE

The Top 5 Most Important Qualities a Guy Should Have

Are you restarting your dating life but find yourself swiping left a little too often? When you’re outing the dating world, it can be hard to find the right balance. Although we don’t want to “settle” for a person, we also don’t want to discount men.

We’re here to help you along your way. You always can try to meet a right person on Promenad, but first of all read on for the top five qualities on what to look for in a man so that you can date with intention. 

1. He’s Respectful

Your man knows that your time is valuable, and he respects it by making sure that he’s present when you’re together. He’s interested in your opinion about topics and gives you a platform to voice them.

He’s also upfront about what he wants in a relationship and doesn’t lead you on. Lastly, you feel free to live your own life without his micromanagement or what he believes is “better.”

2. He’s Supportive

You’ll know a man is supportive if you feel as if you can talk about your life, career aspirations, and goals without judgment. He trusts the decisions you make and will often back you up on them–not make you feel as if you need to constantly second-guess your decisions.

Best of all, supportive men are often good listeners. They’ll give you the silence you need and won’t frequently interrupt.

3. He’s Honest

They’ll be times when your man disagrees with a decision you’re making, and he’ll let you know in a way that doesn’t diminish your character. You won’t need to second-guess his thoughts or motivations because he’s upfront and doesn’t feel the need to hide. This often leads to better communication, one of the most important aspects of a relationship. If you ask him a question, you don’t feel any doubt in his answer–even if it’s not the one you wanted to hear.

4. He Pays Attention

Men who pay attention are often talented at active listening because they want you to know that you’re being heard. They also have good dating etiquette. When you’re together, he’s good at putting down his phone and giving you his full attention. They’re attentive to your needs because it’s their way of showing that they value you.

5. He’s Happy

A man’s attitude is often a good indicator of their self-confidence. If you find that your man has a constant, pessimistic outlook on the world, they probably have the same view of themselves. You may feel compelled to help him or find that your own mood becomes low when you’re around him. Although it’s not realistic to expect someone to be happy all the time, generally you’ll feel happy and comfortable around someone with a positive attitude. They often have a good sense of humor and smile more.

What Do You Look for in a Guy?

What are you looking for in a man? It’s important to ask yourself this question frequently until you have a definite answer. Once you know what you want in a relationship, it’s far easier to find a man that’s looking for the same theme.

It’s all about trusting your instinct. Pay attention to how you feel when you’re around him. If you feel understood, respected, and cared for, you may have found the one.

relationship illustration by Rita Azar

Revitalizing Your Relationship

When you have been in a relationship for a long time, you may find that the romance starts to wane. While you may both still love each other, your time is taken up by other things and this leaves little time for romance. Many couples enjoy a lot of romance at the start of the relationship but once they have been together for a long time, this part of the relationship starts to fizzle away. However, it is important to try and keep the romance alive.

When couples want to add fresh life to their physical relationship, they often invest in things such as intimate products. However, when it comes to injecting more romance into the relationship, you need to do things that are from the heart and meaningful. The good news is that you do not have to spend a fortune when it comes to being romantic and showing your partner how much you care. There are various things you can do, some of which we will look at in this article.

Some Romantic Ways to Show You Care

Being romantic with your partner from time to time is important – even though they may know you love them it is nice to show it as well. There are some simple and effective ways in which you can inject a little more romance into your relationship.

One thing you can do is to whisk your partner off for an impromptu romantic picnic one afternoon. You can get some delicious picnic food in, get a cool bag for chilled wine and drinks, and then head to a local park or beach where you can both relax. This is a great way for you both to unwind, spend some quality time together, and enjoy the great outdoors.

Another thing you may want to consider is rustling up a fabulous romantic meal for your partner at home. If the weather is nice, you can even set up your table on the patio and have romantic twinkling fairy lights. While this might sound daunting, you don’t have to have superb culinary skills to cook for your significant other! Just simply follow an online recipes and you will be sure to impress your partner.

Romance can also be about having some fun, so another thing you can do is arrange a fun day out as a couple. You could go to an exciting theme park where you can stroll hand in hand and enjoy the excitement of the rides. Or you may want to go on a fun date to a place you used to go to when you first met such as going to the movies or a favorite restaurant.

These are all great ways of bringing back a little romance into your relationship while also having a little fun.

Rita Azar, 360 MAGAZINE, DATING, ONLINE DATING, ILLUSTRATIONS

How to Keep Your Dating Life Alive During Lockdown

If you’re a single living through the COVID-19 quarantine, you’re likely well-acquainted with loneliness. But it doesn’t have to be that way. You can still meet your soul mate, or at least, someone fun to hang with, right from the comfort of your own home.

You can even go on dates! While the pandemic may have changed how you date, there’s no reason it should stop you from connecting with someone great.

In fact, dating is still alive and well online. With millions of singles hungry to connect, they are turning to online dating apps in droves, making this the ideal time to take the plunge.

Online dating: How to choose the right app

If you’ve never tried online dating, choosing which app to download can be overwhelming. With thousands of apps out there, it can be hard to know which one is for you.

Start out by deciding what you’re looking for. Are you seeking someone you can eventually have a relationship with or do you simply want some casual companionship? Do you have niche needs? Do you prefer to meet older singles? Are you willing to pay for a better experience? Are you open to dating someone from outside the country?

Once you know what your priorities are, it’s time for a little bit of research. Start by reading some well-researched guides. We’ve seen some great ones from Beyondages.com that help guys looking for all kinds of things from this article about what you need to do to meet a cougar to what guys who don’t really know what they want should do. This will give you a better idea of what is worth your time and money and what you should avoid.

Keeping a list of the pros and cons of each app can help you to compare and narrow down your choices. Whichever app best aligns with your needs is your best bet.

Once you’ve downloaded an app, uploaded some profile pictures and written up your profile, it’s time to start connecting. 

While it’s possible you’ll meet someone great right away, it’s not likely. That’s why being patient is so important. It usually takes a while to meet someone you really click with but, once you do, all of that waiting will be worth it.

Now comes the challenging part. Dating from a distance. Let’s take a look at five of the best ways you can have amazing dates virtually.

Dinner and a movie

Who says the traditional first date outing can’t work during self-isolation? With a little bit of coordination, you can enjoy a great first date via FaceTime, Zoom or Skype.

Decide on a restaurant together, choose your meals and have them delivered to your homes. You can take it up a notch by getting dressed up and lighting some candles in your respective spaces for a more exciting and intimate meal together. 

You can follow up your dinner conversation with a movie. Thanks to Netflix Party, you and your date can watch a movie at the same time and chat about it right from your browser. 

If you’re enjoying your time together, meet back online for a cup of tea or glass of wine and more conversation.

Game night

If chatting is getting a bit old, why not challenge your date to a game night. While virtual game nights don’t take a lot of planning, it can be fun to coordinate your game night snacks and drinks. 

Once that’s done, hit up an online platform like Tabletopia, that allows you to play classic board games with your date. If you want to make things more interesting, put some conditions on the game outcomes. Have the loser pay for the next dinner and movie night or, if you really want to make things interesting, make a pledge that the loser has to initiate your first kiss when you can actually meet in person.

A get to know you night

If there’s some on-screen chemistry happening between you and your date, you can increase the intimacy a bit by playing a different type of game. Word games like 20 Questions, or Would You Rather? can be a lot of fun and can help you to learn more about your online mate.

You can also give psychologist Arthur Aron’s quiz a try. The 36 questions are designed to increase intimacy between strangers and partners alike. The questions, which are broken into three segments, gradually become more personal, allowing you to open up to your date slowly.

If you haven’t had enough truth yet, challenge your online paramour to a game of Truth or Dare. While being apart may limit the dares you can give somewhat, it can still be a lot of fun and will force you to get creative.

While there’s a lot of skepticism around meeting a potential soulmate online, more and more people end up in happy, successful relationships with people they met on an app. Getting to know each other is a crucial part of creating a strong bond that can blossom into a great relationship.

Take a class together 

Many businesses are getting creative by offering their services to people online during the pandemic. This is something you can take advantage of for a fun and unique date night.

Decide on what kind of class you’d both be interested in taking, be it a cooking class or a karate session. Tune in to the class on one device and have video chat running on another so you can feel like you’re learning together.

No matter what you decide on, plan to enjoy each other’s company after the class. With a cooking class, you can simply sit down and enjoy the meal you cooked together. With something more active, enjoy a refreshing beverage and a post-workout rehash of the new skills you learned.

Plan ahead

If things are progressing well with your online love, a fun date night can simply be planning all of the things you want to do with your date once you can actually meet in person.

Make a list of all the places you want to visit together and all the types of dates you’d like to go on. Talking about the types of dates and places that interest you will help you get to know each other better and will give you something to look forward to.

Bonus ideas

Some other great ideas for having fun together virtually are: a digital karaoke night, virtual travel via Google Arts and Culture, creating playlists together or for each other and listening to your favorite music, working out together or trying a virtual wine tasting.

Have you been on some virtual dates? What ideas have you tried to keep things interesting? Let us know your best self-isolating dating tips in the comments below.

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How to Forget an Ex-Girlfriend

Sometimes life divides us. This rarely happens by mutual agreement and for objective reasons. Usually, it goes well, nothing portends disasters, and then you find out that they cheat on you, you have stopped being loved, or it just got boring with you. It may seem that these problems can be solved, but you love her so much. Still, you break up, your ex has a new beautiful life, and you collect the remnants of male pride in the corners of all the bars. Attempts to drown melancholy in a glass of whiskey are almost always unsuccessful. Therefore, we propose to act in a completely different way.

  1. Realize what it is for
    At the moment when a girl breaks up with you, there is emptiness, a wild burning sensation in the chest, which doesn’t let you live a normal life. You should fill this void. But how can you fill it out? You should realize why you need a girl who doesn’t love you. Try to find out why you need a relationship at all. Is there something important for you? There is one great tip: if a person wants to leave you, help open the door. There are a lot of girls in the world who will give you great love. Don’t forget about it. Life doesn’t end on one person, yes, it’s bad, yes, you miss, but it always passes.
  2. Try to be busy
    After the relationship ends, most men have free time that they used to spend on a partner. This chance should be used for self-development and the achievement of new heights. Having set a goal and trying to achieve it, a person leaves no time for empty regrets and meaningless thoughts about what can’t be returned. Career advancement or an exciting hobby may work out here. You can look for a new environment, go on a short trip, take on a serious project at work, start scuba diving – any way will do! In addition, you can start looking for other single women for marriage. Fight fire with fire. This is the only right approach.
  3. Express your emotions
    Most likely, you are angry and annoyed. Your head is torn from thoughts. If you are silent, you can never put an end to a relationship. Make an appointment, call, or write in the messenger everything you think about her and the current situation. If she offended or hurt you, don’t try to be nice in the hope of getting her back. Yes, it is not easy, but if you decide to take this step, then go to the end. You better give vent to emotions. It will be easier for you. Apologize only if there is a reason for it.
  4. Admit that it hurts you
    Many guys choose a denial tactic. They are ready to scream to the world about how they don’t give a damn about this girl. And deep down, they realize that this is a lie. And most importantly, they lie to themselves. It will not let you deal with your feelings. You can run away from them, deny, and “live on.” But what will you come to? You will drag all your baggage from the past into a relationship with a new girl. You will make the same mistakes. So, think about it. You have to learn to live without her.
  5. Don’t look for ways to start it all over
    You said your ex what you think, and now, if your goal is to really forget about the ex, then it’s time to break all ties with her. This doesn’t mean that you must block her on all social networks and delete her from friends as a teenager. Just stop watching her stories and posts, tormenting your head with potential comments that you won’t leave, looking for ways to stealthily see her, driving “by chance” past the girl’s house, and writing to her friends to find out something about her. If the temptation to follow an ex-girlfriend at least in social networks is too great, get out of them altogether. A small digital detox will not hurt anyone, especially in such a situation.
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Dating Someone Internationally

Tips On How To Help Improve Your Partner’s Chances of Getting A Green Light On Their Green Card

By: Jeana Jaeger

It’s no surprise that more people are now dating internationally or outside of their ethnic group, especially since Social Media, Dating Apps and even Online Gaming are playing a huge role in making love connections across borders. However, the latest national policies may now make it more difficult for couples to secure a visa or green card if they want to live together in the United States. In fact, some of the most recent data shows that thousands of green card applications during fiscal year 2019 were not approved, meaning that it may be a little tougher for foreign born citizens to obtain a visa or green card. Since international dating will continue to be on the rise, it’s important for couples to truly understand how to legally navigate the rules.

To help improve your chances of receiving an approval, there are several tips that can help move the process along in the right direction. First, a big part of the process involves completing the necessary paperwork. Before submitting, you need to make sure you have all of the required and correct documents with the necessary signatures. Couples have to prove they have day-to-day contact and constant communication, and that they have physically met in person within the last two years of filing. When it comes to communication, it helps to show there is not a language barrier where neither partner speaks the other language, or you need to detail how you work around that obstacle.

Another important factor is that if one partner was previously married, they need to make sure the divorce is completely finalized. Regarding the blending of cultures, the government will look to see if you adhere to cultural norms such as if you had an engagement ceremony that is customary to the local culture.

When it comes to the in-person interview, it’s of utmost importance to make sure everything you say is factual and correct. The interview is your chance to tell your love story, make them understand and see how real and special your relationship is. If you lie or fail to present accurate information, your green card could be denied. Fake or photoshopped photos are also considered fraudulent evidence, which may lead to a denial.

Even though times are frightening due to recent immigration changes, true love can still prevail. The most important takeaways to keep in mind throughout the process is to provide the correct documents and factual information on time, per government requirements.

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4 Signs How To Know You Are A Perfect Match

Are we compatible? This is a very vital question anyone in a relationship ought to ask, especially if the relationship gets serious. But unfortunately, some couples carry on with each other and blinded to the fact that they’re not a relationship match. So we see them move from “wedding congratulations” to “I want a divorce” in a heartbeat. 

So if you’re still in the relationship stage, pause today and ask your self — how compatible are we? Do we make a good couple or are we a good match? With these in mind, step into this post and let’s talk, showing you strong compatibility signs. 

Strangers like friends

Have you ever experienced a vibing with someone that’s so natural you get lost in the convo? You only met them for the first time, but your flow is so seamless, it feels you’ve known forever. You don’t run out of things to talk about and you feel so relaxed that you are yourself around them. You’re so comfortable around them that you find yourself talking about stuff you’ll naturally shy away from with others.

That’s a very strong sign right there that you shouldn’t ignore. Although there is more to being compatible that having great flow together. It’s something to note if you’re considering getting serious. This is because spending your life with someone you can’t have a great conversation with will make you miserable. 

Again, if you have to be so cautious around them or go silent because there’s nothing to talk about. Then you’ve not found your partner. Keep looking and don’t settle, there’s someone for you. 

You love talking about the same things

Although variety is the spice of life, in relationships you have to be as similar as possible. We mean, loving almost the same things. How about a situation where everything your partner talks about leaves you cold. Neither of you has interests in what the other enjoys doing. No single area of overlap for both of you. That’s a disaster waiting to happen. 

When a couple share love for the same topics and discourse, they don’t need to try keeping convos alive. They both get excited and engrossed with whatever they’re talking about. The conversations take a life of its own and the time keeps running. 

Have you ever had a chat with a friend and you’re not in a hurry to end it? Or you look at the time and it’s hours since you started talking? And you don’t know where the time went. That’s compatibility and it gives you something to look forward to.

They take humor as good as they can give 

A great sense of humor plays a vital role in every healthy relationship. Listen to some couples we tag “bae goals” and you’d always hear, he/she makes me laugh. Forever is too long to live with a straight face all the time. Your partner should be able to make you laugh till your muscles hurt. They should also be able to undertake your jokes and deal with the witty part of you.

A lot of people are quite sensitive and can never take a joke to save their lives. They either get offended when jokes are made or they just mope at you because they don’t get it. If you’re blessed with wit and are very goofy, please keep moving.

You’ve not found the one, because people like this will kill your vibe. They will suppress your bubbly spirit. You need all the humor in the world to get by each day. 

Their personality is perfect for you 

We all have that friend that’s so perfect we feel very comfortable with them. We can tell them everything and do everything them, but…  They remain in the friend zone. We are not even tempted to cross the boundaries of friendship into anything more serious. This is simply saying they have a great personality but they aren’t perfect for you. 

Then there are other people who have great personalities. We want to do everything with them and be with them always. We want to wake up to them and get into something serious, including visiting base without remorse. They say something and it’s so funny to you. You see the best in every one of their little gestures.

They awaken the butterflies in your tummy with their personalities. They do things that seem ordinary to others but amazing to you, and you know that they’re perfect. That’s it! Go for it! You found the one! 

“Are we compatible?” is a question everyone in a serious relationship should be asking. See our helpful answers in the post. 

How to Start a Successful Online Dating Business 

It’s extremely difficult to find a reliable partner in our fast-moving world, and statistical data confirm this fact. According to the recent census, almost more 43 percent of adult American population are singles. The reasons behind these threatening figures vary, but most singles admit that they find themselves unable to fit relationships into their hectic life. It takes much time to meet someone, get to know him/her, court, and adapt your life so that you can meet the needs of a new partner. That’s when online dating comes in handy. Though presently a good many people still don’t consider online dating as serious and conducive to forming long-term relationships, more and more lonely hearts desperate for love take advantage of online dating services.

 According to Camsoda dependable review, an online dating industry’s revenue is forecast to reach almost 20 million dollars by the end of 2020, which is suggestive of users’ skyrocketing interest to online dating. Needless to say, the industry in question can be a perfect source of income to those who know how to make the most of it. If you’re determined to set up an online dating business, you need to be knowledgeable about the subtleties of this industry and ready to face up to difficulties and pitfalls that are just bound to arise as you move on. In our todays article, we’re going to tell you how to maximize your business potential and create a profitable online dating site that will set up millions of lonely people. 

Research the Market. Find Your Niche 

You must know that the very conception of online dating has been redefined since the advent of dating applications. Such apps as Tinder, Hinge, League, and Bumble are convenient, easily accessible, and versatile and currently making massive inroads into the online dating market. The developers promise that their apps will help your find a perfect match and build valuable relationship. No wonder, more people now tend to rely on freemium apps for finding their significant others. As for the more traditional monthly paid subscription dating sites, there’s a noticeable decrease in their popularity. That having been said, you don’t need to give up the idea of building your online dating business right away. If you’re a total stranger to web development and it’s beyond you to create your own unique dating app, there’s still a chance to succeed in setting up your online dating website.   

First of all, you need you need to know the market you’re about to enter. Therefore, it’s critical that you do extensive research into it. Get to know your rivals, familiarize yourself with the range of services they provide to find out what makes people choose exactly them. Once you identify your target audience and research your niche market, you’ll need to come up with some unique ideas and marketing strategies that will help you set your services apart from other competitors and attract users. Consider creating an online dating site for specific tastes or fetishes. Remember Uniform Singles that successfully brings together people who wear uniform at work (e.g. military or police officers, doctors, firefighters). You can also locate a gap in the market you’re aiming at and come up with something unique and non-trivial. Thus, you’ll be able to occupy the niche that has been hitherto vacant. 

Make Your Users Like You 

No matter what your site’s users prefer, they are always looking for one and the same. All singles dream of finding a person who would keep them company if not creating a lasting connection with someone. So, make sure to create a welcoming, user-friendly environment for your visitors. In other words, make them like your website. There are lots of those people who are still hesitant about using online dating services or have previous bad experiences. The onus is on you to show them that online dating can be easy, fun, and just as real as real life dating. Allow your visitors to express themselves. Let them share their thoughts, opinions, and desires. Don’t impose strict limits and don’t scare off new users with charging them too much for your services. Remember that currently only about 16 percent of people are willing to pay for online dating services. With that in mind, you’ll need to invent a strategy that will help you attract clients without and at the same time won’t rob them. You can offer free trial subscription for, say, the first month. It’s also a good idea to roll out discounts and limited time bonuses for both new users and loyal clients. Finally, you can opt for a freemium model. But if you grant all users a free membership, you’ll need to think about some other ways in which you can attract income. Most online dating business owners that don’t charge annual or monthly subscription fees, rely heavily on advertising revenue, which can be a good option for you, as well. You can also consider affiliate partnership as a source of additional income.  

Understand the Importance of Software 

It’s a rare website that can thrive with an amateur-looking interface, lack of technical support, and poor moderation. Therefore, you should be prepared for forking out on all those things to ensure proper operation of your website. Hire an experienced web builder who knows how to code, understands design and it able to implement such essential functions as instant messages, navigation, spam detection, image and on-page optimization, e-commerce, link building, etc. Thus, you’ll be able to earn your users’ trust and make them want to come back. 

Promote Your Business

Furthermore, don’t forget about marketing your online business. It’s a good idea to start a blog you’ll be updating with unique content relevant to services you’re providing. Thus, you’ll be able to advertise your website in an unobtrusive and subtle manner. If you want to give your product instant reach to billions of active users start promoting it on social media. Don’t just provide links to your product. Interest your potential visitors with an appealing intro text and ask your current users share their reviews and impressions about your services with others on social media. Thus, you’ll be able to interest and reach out to a wider audience and attract more people willing to find their love online.