Soulmate Coach, Brianna Colette Launches “Relationship Rehab”
“When people come to me, their love life has become stagnant, and they don’t know why. It usually means they are living in a belief system of fears and old trauma. I work to upgrade their belief system about what is available to them and what they think they deserve. When you don’t know how to love yourself you will end up settling for someone who doesn’t know how to love you either.”
Brianna Colette is an intuitive relationship healer and soulmate medium who helps guide her clients to connect with their inner self to focus more on a higher sense of self love to grow stronger connections and relationships, ultimately leading them to finding and experiencing the most preeminent of bonds: soulmate love.
We got the opportunity to speak with Brianna last week about what she does, providing insight and a chance to learn about the background to this profession.
What led you to this calling?
In 2017, I witnessed a violent murder of a family by their adult son. I was able to save the lives of two people, but I suffered mentally and emotionally as result. At the same time, the relationship that I thought would be my anchor abruptly ended and only further triggered my abandonment issues. I struggled with PTSD, depression, panic attacks, and anxiety. I had sunk so low I started having suicidal thoughts. It was then I knew I needed more than talk therapy. This near-death experience was the catalyst for my spiritual awakening and learning about different healing modalities. I started addressing relationship patterns and healing the relationship I had with myself.
Do you think your past relationships have helped you curate how you help others?
100%. Everything that I guide my clients through, I have personally healed and integrated for myself. From trust issues, attachment dynamics to abandonment trauma. Everything I share comes from real-life experience (negative, positive, etc.).
Do you recommend people who believe they are in solid and grounded relationships to come to see you?
If your relationship has a good foundation of trust, communication, love, and respect with no major issues, congrats! But even the relationship that looks good on the outside can have its issues. If you feel like you’re not getting your needs met, aren’t feeling heard like you’re constantly having the same fight over and over, lines are being crossed and you’re not sure how to shift it, come talk to me.
Do you think relationship issues lie mostly in their past?
Absolutely. Each of us comes to the relationship with a “template” so to speak. It is compiled of all our conditioning, trauma, belief systems, and ideas about love and relationships. And whatever we’re carrying around, whatever it is that’s unhealed ends up being dumped into the relationship.
What about the present?
New variables might come into the mix that is out of our control (loss of a job, family stressors, children, etc.), but how we deal with them is usually based on the tools that we have in our ‘emotional toolbox.’
How in-depth are your sessions?
They can go pretty deep, actually. But it all depends on how in-depth a client is willing to go. I always respect a person’s boundaries but will be as transparent as possible in a kind way if I see something. A lot of our issues are hiding in our subconscious mind- behaviors, patterns etc. And sometimes all that’s needed is the awareness around it to heal it and change the behavior.
Did your journey in helping other people find self-love begins first with finding your own?
For the longest time, I wanted so badly to love and accept myself. I was so critical of myself and had a lot of negative self-talk. I used to feel so unlovable. It’s sad but true. People were always talking about self-love, but I didn’t know how to ‘get’ there. Through my own process of healing my self-worth, I learned what self-love and acceptance really mean. I was able to really lock in a logical and tangible way to heal and create a ‘formula’ so to speak.
Do you think you found self-love by helping others?
No, the self-love came from digging deep and addressing why I had such a low opinion of myself. Why I was willing to accept less. I had to heal myself first before I could help others. In the healing world, we always say you must heal from the scar, not the wound. Meaning you must heal first before you go helping others.
Did you always believe this would be something you saw yourself doing in the future, or did it just kind of come to you?
Absolutely not! If you would’ve told me 5 years ago that I would be teaching and healing others something I had been painfully and quietly suffering with for years, I never would’ve believed you. This kind of work is a force you can’t ignore. It’s a purpose that keeps nagging in your ear until you do something about it.
Did this career always correspond with what you thought you were going to be growing up?
Looking back, yes it makes sense. I was a hairstylist for 15 years and always had a gift for helping people see how beautiful they really are. So many of my clients said sitting in my chair was like a therapy session that you left feeling good about yourself afterward. I’ve always been able to see someone’s inner beauty and potential and bring that to the surface. Help them discover the unique beauty and highlight that for the world to see. And to be honest I think there’s nothing more powerful than a woman who feels beautiful in her own skin.
No matter what form of love complications her clients may have, Brianna first establishes where their inability to achieve happiness stems from so that they may begin with most importantly repairing self-worth. Whether that be past traumas, personal frustrations, or unsuccessful work/life experiences, Brianna highlights the way her clients show up in non-romantic relationships because they can often reflect their limitations within their relationships in general. Examining her clients’ old belief systems allows Brianna to focus on any client’s possible wounds from childhood, inherited family dynamics, or fear surrounding vulnerability.
Once Brianna examines their past, she helps her clients make peace with old wounds and break free from any self-sabotaging toxic patterns, guiding them on how to release fear and create the right conditions for a higher frequency of love. Brianna’s passion stems from her own personal experiences and growth, continuously evolving her ability to intuitively heal and help clients enter a fulfilling relationship and their most aligned love life ever. By fusing modern therapies and energetic healing modalities, her clients can discover their authentic self and rewrite their futures to achieve and experience the kind of relationships & love that we all desire.