Cupid has been slacking this year. Singles need to settle for virtual dates if they want to maintain social distancing regulations and have a love life, and relationships have been falling apart all across the globe. So, we need to change the direction of Cupid’s arrow towards ourselves and start practicing self-love.
Loving yourself and caring for yourself first will help you find the happiness you are capable of having. Society has placed a stigma against single people as if it is a condition brought upon by them being unworthy of love, and some people allow this mindset of others to enter their own thoughts. Allowing these outside variables to influence your opinion of yourself will only amplify the negative feelings you have about what it means to be alone. You have the ability to challenge these feelings and these thoughts which will lead you to seeing your own worth.
An effective way to help change your mindset and guide you to a more positive outlook is to practice hypnotherapy. Hypnotherapy is essentially meditation but with a goal. So why not take meditation practices a step further? Hypnotherapy, as the name suggests, is a therapy. Counter to pop culture depiction of hypnosis associating people clucking like chickens while being hypnotized, hypnotherapy is a proven tool. Albrecht Wobst, H. K. MD, from Anesthesia & Analgesia writes “Contemporary clinical investigators claim that the combination of analgesia and hypnosis is superior to conventional pharmacologic anesthesia for minor surgical cases, with patients and surgeons responding favorably.” Research on the effectiveness of hypnotherapy continues to grow.
So, how can we use hypnotherapy to help with loneliness? First, we need to understand hypnotherapy. Certified clinical hypnotherapist, Christine Deschemin, shares “A typical approach of hypnotherapy is for the hypnotist to deliver verbal suggestions that are tailored to the needs of the client.” She also shares that you can practice hypnotherapy on your own, with just an audio guide from her app, UpNow, to get you started. “Hypnosis is a naturally occurring state of awareness. This state achieves the ‘bypass of the critical factor’ and as a result enables you to make changes to the self-defeating behaviors and self-limiting beliefs, bringing you then to your desired target state – sleeping better, becoming slimmer, and managing pain more easily for instance.”
So, we can target the negative feelings triggered from loneliness due to the adverse connotations we associate with being alone through self-hypnosis. Our subconscious thoughts have a strong impact on the way we view and approach different things in life and by practicing self-hypnosis, we can help change those thoughts. We can learn how to enjoy our own company and grow to value it. We can also help diminish anxiety about the future, and the depression and hopelessness that sometimes comes with being single and actively searching for a partner with no avail.
When you work on yourself first, and you start to manage your own struggles, you will also start to attract better people around you. Building up your confidence and independence will help you to fearlessly work towards your goals. The closer you get to your goals the more confidence you will have. Working on yourself and your independence will become your priority, as it should always be.
Remember, being in a relationship is not the determining factor of success, but there is nothing wrong with wanting a partner either. Yet, in order to love someone else you have to learn to love yourself first, practicing self-hypnosis will help you get there.
With the pandemic bringing a new type of challenge for those looking for love and happiness, we are in a constant search for new methods of how to cope and navigate those struggles. Christine Deschemin’s app, UpNow, was created to enable people to practice hypnotherapy on their own in a safe and affordable manner. You can use hypnotherapy audios from UpNow to bring you to your full potential and find what you’re looking for.